Short monologue/advice segment (YouTube video) addressing dating challenges faced by dark-skinned Black women. Speaker advises choosing partners who appreciate them as whole people rather than focusing on skin tone, cites disparities in marriage rates by skin shade (lighter-skinned ~40%, medium ~30%, darker-skinned ~17%), and urges stronger boundaries and careful vetting of partners.
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Okay. So, Marsa, do you have any advice on dating as a dark skinned black woman? Yes. And that advice is that you are going to have to get with guys that absolutely adore you. But you can't, don't get with guys that are talking about your skin color, even if they're saying, I love it, whether it's a white guy, whether it's a black guy. Because I already know that they're giving.
Let me turn this down a little bit.
They're giving.
Silence of the Lambs.
They want to skin you, girl. So.
Make sure that you're getting with guys that are interested in you as a human and not you as a second skin. This is important because.
One of the things that I know is that there are different marriage rates for different.
Hues.
Okay. For example.
The percentage of married women, Black women, is 27%. But if you take the average.
Lighter skinned women are actually getting married in the 40th percentile. Darker skinned women are getting married at like 17%. And then medium, I don't know how to call it, are getting married at like the third 30ish percentile. And this is very important to realize, and I'm sharing this with you because there are unique challenges for darker skinned women. And I just want to acknowledge that because a lot of people out there will say, no, girl, you're good, you're da da, da, da, da. No, it means that you are going to have to like the men that you're engaging with. You are going to have to do more detective work.
Yeah.
This, I, I think you come to me because you want, you want somebody to keep it real. I'm here to keep it real with you. I'm not gonna bullshit you.
That's just, that's, that's the research. That's what it looks like. So you're going to have to, your boundaries are going to have to be.
Stronger.
Okay? Yeah. So I'm not playing any games and I don't want you to either.
