YouTube advice segment (by Anwar White) on dating as a single mother: treat dating as being a woman who happens to have a child (not 'dating with a kid'); avoid introducing children until exclusivity; recalibrate from a constant "mother"/masculine energy into a healthier balance of masculine and feminine energies to attract healthy partners.
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User 725 Dating with a kid. You're not dating with a kid. You're dating as a woman, and you happen to have a child. But they're actually very different. Like, because oftentimes, as a parent, your identity is set in being a mother, a parent. Like, it is very easy to think, oh, my gosh, I have to incorporate my kid. You shouldn't be introducing anyone to your kid until you're in an exclusive relationship. So the courtship process is just you and him. And this is about you being a woman, taking the mother hat off and being a woman and allowing these men to show up for you. Single mothers oftentimes are in their masculine energy because they have to be. But in the courtship process, you cannot do that. It will work against you. If you are in your masculine energy as a woman, specifically a woman of color, you will attract two kinds of men, because relationships are about compliments. You will attract men that are in their hyper, AKA toxic masculinity, that will push you down and try to force you to submit into femininity. Or you will attract men that are in their dominant feminine energy, and you will be mothering another person and having two children instead of one. Yeah. So this is why it's important to at least recalibrate the energy so that they're both masculine and feminine energy and healthy, healthy levels. Okay.
