A short YouTube monologue by Anwar White giving direct, personal dating advice to college students—particularly Black and Brown women. Key recommendations: study abroad to gain dating experience and confidence (anwar recounts studying in Germany and Italy and claims multiple partners), avoid dating athletes, do homework in the computer science/engineering building rather than the library, and prioritize both sexual satisfaction and academic performance to improve future earnings.
Chapters
Someone said, anwar, what about dating in college? It's a great question. The last thing that you want to do is be that girl that meets a guy in freshman year and dates him all four years of your college career.
And many of us have seen that girl. Most of the time they don't make it. And you've spent all of your college years with one guy and you probably had to sacrifice some of your social life hanging out with that guy, having the same same old lame ol sex. Girl, no shade.
One thing that I want you to do.
If you're a black or a brown woman, I want you to study abroad.
Yeah. I want you to go get away.
From the campus and start dating. A lot of guys is definitely go to Europe.
Because a lot of the, especially the black girls who haven't dated since, since college or started dating in college. You're going to be really inexperienced.
And what will happen when you're abroad is you're going to have a lot of people coming for you in a good way and checking for you. And it's going to help you get more experienced.
So that when you come back to school.
Girl, you know, what the hell's going on here.
Honey, when I studied abroad, I studied abroad in undergrad and grad school. You hear me? I was in Germany in undergrad and then Italy in grad and I had five boyfriends at a time. That's what you need to do. You have five boyfriends at a time. In three months you'll be fluent in that language and you can put it on your resume and get an even better job when you graduate college.
Okay?
Someone said LMAO 5? Yes. Girl, I've never done anything half ass. I've always done it full ass.
Yeah.
What will happen is after you come back from studying abroad and you're experiencing that, you will have a different level of confidence when you come back to America. And you will not engage in low grade shit.
If you are starting dating in college and you don't know what the hell's going on, you will engage with everything because you won't have the discernment yet to figure out what's low grade and what's high grade or even mid grade.
Some other advice for the college girls out there.
Don'T date an athlete.
Some other advice for you. Don't do your homework in the library. The library is a club.
Do your homework in the computer science and engineering building.
Why? Well, those boys are smart and they can help you get an A. But two nerds are packing and they know how to lay it down. And you can have one or two on the low.
Honey. Y' all not ready for this. Y' all. Are y' all ready for this tea?
Are y' all ready for this tea or no? Cuz, what am. What am I here to do? I want you satisfied in the bed. I want you getting your A's. I want that GPA up. I want that starting salary to be as high as possible because that will indicate your future life earnings.
