Anwar White, a dating coach, breaks down time-based boundaries for women: how long to wait for a date request, acceptable travel windows for first meetings, how quickly men should follow up, and when to expect exclusivity. He maps out the timeline that separates serious interest from wasting your time.
Questions this video answers
December 26, 2023.
13 years.
1 week (unless long-distance).
2 weeks.
4 weeks.
Chapters
Girl, most women don't know how to date. And that's especially true if you're a woman of color, a black woman, because.
You'Re not taught how to date.
Right. And you know, it's frustrating when things are not going your way because you were never taught. It's like trying to perform surgery, but you've gone to law school, it just doesn't work.
So think of me as your fairy.
Godfather and I'm gonna put you on game. I am going to give you some.
Dating strategy, AKA some dating boundaries that.
I want you to uphold and implement on your dating journey. Yeah.
Okay, so let's get started. If you are dating a guy and.
You meet him online and he hasn't.
Asked you out in a week, he's out. Now if he is longer distance, let's say two hours away, he has two weeks. And if he's three hours away or longer, he has four weeks to come and see you and have a date with you.
We never go to a guy that's.
Long distance for the first rendezvous, AKA meeting or date. We don't get flew out. Girls. Yeah. Now, if you have gone out on a date with a guy and he hasn't reached out to you within 48 hours, he's out. It means you are an option and you're not the priority. I get women to relationships like at least two or three every week. And the guys that they're in relationships with, you have to beat them off with a stick.
That's what it looks like. So. So I want you to have that.
As your threshold, as your expectation with.
A guy that is serious about you. And if he's not, he's out.
Now, let's say you're further down the.
Line and you have been kind of seeing a guy for two and a half to three months.
When the exclusivity, conversation, commitment, conversation comes.
Up and he's not ready at that time, he's out. If he's not ready, then, because a man will know within two and a half to three months.
He doesn't want.
To be with you. Girl. No shade. And we have to, like, cut our losses.
I have been a dating coach for.
13 years and every woman that has given him an extra week, an extra month, it's never worked out and it's never worked out. And it's only taken a month to realize that.
So please heed my words, okay?
If you have been seeing a guy.
For two years and he is, and.
You'Re not married or you're not engaged, he's got to be out.
He's not serious. You're a placeholder, and.
Or he's not in a financial position.
To move forward with you, which lets me know that he was never built.
When you saw him and that you were building with him. And we don't build with men. It's like buying a house with no.
Windows, doors, or a roof.
We deal with men that are built. Yeah. So it should only take them two years to get engaged or married to you.
I hope this helps. Put this in your notes app, girl. And if you want help like upholding.
And really making sure that these boundaries.
Hold solid, book a call with me.
And I can become your dating coach. I hope this helps.
