A short YouTube monologue (Anwar White, May 31, 2024) offering advice for people—especially those with money-related scarcity wounds—on overcoming a love-scarcity mindset by intentionally treating themselves. The speaker distinguishes "treats" (pleasure-driven purchases) from rewards (earned compensation) and uses a personal anecdote about impulsively booking a trip to Cancun to illustrate acting on desire.
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Yeah. Jesse said, advice for lover girls dealing with scarcity mindset so you can work on those things outside of your dating life. So one of the things that I would say is.
Give yourself a weekly treat.
Which means that, like, a treat is something that's different than a reward. A treat is something that you give yourself because you want it and you want to pleasure. You want self pleasure. A reward is I've done something, so I get a reward because I've done something. A treat is I'm getting it because it pleases me. So treats are important because oftentimes, not all of the time, but oftentimes it requires spending money on you. A lot of our scarcity mindset comes from our money wounds. And especially if you are someone of color or someone who grew up, you know, with, not without a lot of money, you might have a scarcity mindset because.
You didn't have a lot of money, so everything was scarce, right? And so this is about doing the things that you want to do and kind of being, like, audacious about it. So, for example, I'll give you an example. For spring break, like, I was like, oh, I really want to leave. I really want to go to the Caribbean or Mexico for spring break. And then the. The flight started getting more and more expensive. And then.
Like the morning of, I was like, I want to go to Cancun. And I did it.
And I took my family. And I'm sharing this with you. It's because it's interesting what happens when you lean into the things that you want. You actually get a lot of different things coming. So, like, on the way there, I had the Washington Post contact me, and I had a whole article on me in the Washington Post, right? And I gained two new clients, like that day, which literally paid for the flight. So it's like doing those things that you would tell yourself no, and telling yourself yes, that will help you kind of get out of that scarcity mindset.
