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How to deal with someone who isn't healed?

Name: How to deal with someone who isn't healed?
Uploaded: 2024-04-22T14:31:55+00:00
Duration: 9 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short YouTube monologue (Anwar White) advising listeners to leave people who are "unhealed" and are taking their unresolved issues out on others. The…

22 Apr 2024 · 0 min

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Short YouTube monologue (Anwar White) advising listeners to leave people who are "unhealed" and are taking their unresolved issues out on others. The speaker argues that adults do not have to tolerate hurtful behavior (unlike children who lacked agency), and emphasizes that present behavior matters more than historical relationship length when deciding whether to stay. The core recommendation: prioritize present actions over past history and set boundaries by leaving harmful relationships, even with family or long-term acquaintances.

Sunai said, when dealing with someone who isn't healed and they don't realize it, but are taking it out on you, then you gotta leave, girl.
See how I did that? Girl run away. Your job is not to take it. That's the interesting thing about what's so funny. Because when you were a child, you didn't have any agency, independence, or power. And so depending on what your parents were giving, you just had to take it. And so you think that you just have to take when you're dating. And you don't necessarily have to do that. So please understand that when that happens, when you have an unhealed individual that is taking things out on you and they haven't been able to manage their mindset or their feelings, you're going to have to leave. I don't care if it's family, I don't care if it's friends. I don't care if it's, you know, someone that you've known for 20 years. One of the biggest mistakes that I see relationships, not even just romantically, is overestimating or putting a lot of weight on history and not the present.
And you actually gonna have to flip it like the present. What happens in the present, it actually means more than what history you've had with that person, because the present actually indicates more of the future than the past does.