A short YouTube video transcript by dating coach Anwar White explaining the difference between a provider mindset and simply having money. White emphasizes generosity and solution-providing (actions that create security, safety, and peace of mind), encourages women to allow and receive provision, and gives behavioral examples of provider actions in dating and relationships.
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Girl, if you are looking for a man with a provider mindset, I want you to continue to listen. Because what I have seen and what I have observed as a dating coach for 14 years and as your fairy godbrother, is that a lot of women are equating provider with someone with money. And those are two completely different things. And here's why I say this. People are looking for generous individuals, but the gag is that a lot of wealthy men are actually very stingy and a lot of poor men are very generous for what they have. And so that can't be the entire equation. I want you to understand that you have to be looking for someone that is generous, but also someone who provides solutions. That's the difference between a poor man and a rich man. That providers are about providing solutions. And through their solutions, they're able to provide security, safety, safety, and peace of mind for you. So what does this look like? It looks like, oh, you want to go on a date? Okay, I'm going to provide the location, the time, and see if that's okay with you. Oh, you're not feeling well? Well, I'm going to come and bring you a basket that's going to make you feel good. Oh, you're hungry? Okay. I'm going to find solutions that are, I can cook you something, we can order in, or I can take you to a restaurant. Right. These are the sort of solutions that you want to be evaluating men on based on if they are a provider or not. So, girl, in my relationship, I'm actually the provider of the masculine energy. Don't let this voice or these mannerisms fool you. So anytime that we travel, we just came from New York, I'm the one who is getting the airplane tickets, getting the hotels, having some sort of agenda, and always touching base with my partner around these things. That's what a provider does. This is important as you understand and evaluate what it looks like versus what it doesn't.
At the end of the day, I want you to understand that you can't have a provider man unless you allow yourself to be provided for. Because I can already see the comments. I'm my own provider man. Great, girl. Happy for you. Excited for you. There can't be two providers. Yeah. So part of the work for so many women out there, and this is why I'm doing this video, is that we're going to have to allow, accept, and be comfortable receiving things from men. Yeah. That's externally. Right. So I don't want to hear I got it or I'm okay No, bitch, you're not okay. Let him do what he needs to do. When he provides solutions for you, that is how he bonds with you. That's how his vasopressin increases. That's how he falls in love with you. But if you don't allow him to do that, he's going to continue to think of you as a business colleague and not as a romantic interest. So externally, we're going to have to learn how to allow men to do things for us. Internally, we're going to have to realize that we're worth all of those things being done for us and more and realize that we're still safe doing it. So many women are uncomfortable when men do things for them. One because of their self esteem and confidence. Like, I don't think I deserve all of this. No, girl, you deserve everything and more. Think of yourself as a queen if you don't believe you deserve these things and more. You're never going to be comfortable finding and being with a provider man. So. And if you need help with that, definitely book a call with me. But otherwise, let me know. Are there other ways that you actually evaluate a provider man?
