How to figure out res flags in dating

Something you wish you would have said.

I knew I was gonna.

That I lost my mind trying to figure out yours. This is one of the most profound things that I've heard in a very long time. And that's hard to do on Tick tock, as we all know. So many women trying to figure out what men are thinking, and it is such a very dangerous road to do that. The thing that I want to offer to you if you're in a relationship and you find yourself in this situation, is to. I don't want you to try to figure out the why. Why he does that, why he says that, why he acts in that way. I want you to respect the what. What he is doing and how it makes you feel. Yeah. Because ultimately that's the only thing that matters. That's why you'll never hear me talk about red flags. Because red flags actually center him and center something that's outside of yourself instead of what you're feeling inside. As a dating coach for 13 years, I have helped thousands of women. And one of the things that I think is very important is our red flags are based on our lived experiences and our trauma. And every woman has a different set of them. There are some women that would prefer to not hear from their guys most of the week because they're so busy and then date them on the weekends. Whereas there are some women that if they don't hear from their guy in a day, it's a red flag and he's out based on lived experience and trauma. So I want to offer to you that it doesn't matter why he's doing something and it's not your job to figure it out. Your job is to figure out what's happening inside of you and move accordingly. If you need help doing that and getting in touch with how you're feeling at all times, definitely book a call. But otherwise, comment below and let me know. Have you been stuck in a situation where you've had to try to or you tried to figure out what was going on with him and you lost yourself? I think we've all been in that situation.