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Just a little flirting. Just like a girl's not a flirt. So if a guy comes up to you and he said, hi, how you doing? What are you saying? What are you saying? I need to know right now. Someone said hi. Someone said, hi. Hi. I'm good. How are you? Fine. Don't say fine. Patrice, you got a girl now. She said, I'm better now. That's the answer. I'm doing well now. How are you? So you have to add on to that. Don't just answer. Give a question back. Right? I'm doing better now. How are you? Boom. Now we have some momentum. But the girls who said, good, how are you? Or fine or good, y' all got Cs for the girls who C plus, B minus. You said fine, you got a D. Mean giving. Mean. If you said, good, now you got an A. Okay? Gigi said, I'm saying I'm okay, girl. That's F response. Okay? The girl who said, as good as you look. No, don't do that. We don't give. If a guy is approaching you, we don't want to give him a compliment off the bat. It's too much. It's too thirsty, and it means we're pursuing already. Don't do that. Wait till he gives you some and, like, he needs to give you more compliments, more love, more attention before we give him a little bit something back. We can't go out the gate giving him everything, because then guess what? He's being pursued by us. Guess what? We've already pedestalized him and put him above us. And the gag about flirting is that you have to be the queen, and you always have to make him feel like he is. Like, inspire him. But know that your status is actually on the pedestal, right? He's the knight. You are the queen, right? You're already giving the compliment from the get go. You're kissing the ring of the king, and it says, flirting off the bat really turns me off. Well, girl, if he can't flirt, girl, he can't show you that he's into you. Y' all need to start getting really comfortable with men flirting with you. Here's the thing. This is what I told my client before, and I think I want to tell you all this as well. Flirting doesn't have to be adversarial. Y' all are acting like, when I flirts with you, you need a shield, right? You need something to block it or, like, shield. What y' all really need to do? What y' all really need to do, you need to Serve like matador, right? Because it's all a game. Olay. Yeah. Let them run towards you and then give them the olay, girl. Yeah. Not a shield. Not a shield. Girl, you gotta play with it and know that you're in full control. Yes, honey, with the olay. No more shields. Okay, let's keep on going. Let's keep on going. Okay. If a guy goes. If a guy goes, oh, my God, you are so beautiful. What are we saying? What's the response back? There's a response back. How do we flirt back? I said, someone said, thanks. Thanks. Thanks is actually a C response. Thank you. It's actually a B minus response. Laughing. Okay, that's a B response. Someone said, I know that. That's a D + response. He's gonna be like, oh, this girl's full of herself. He wants to please you. And if he feels like he can't please you, he's gonna step away. Angela said, you look nice too.

So we want. We want to say thank you so much for the compliment. You always do. You always flatter women so much, right? Build him up. Your job is to inspire him, let him know that he has to continue to work for you. The job of men. The job is to work for you. Right? So anything that he does, you always want to let him know that, like, oh, this is what you do. What more can you do? But in a playful way, right? So do you always do this? That's the question, right? Do you always flatter, you know, women so much and then he's got to be like, you know, yeah, that's the kind of man that I am, or I'm just doing me or whatever, what have you. Yeah.

Someone said, go on. Angela said, you think so? That's cute, girl. That's B plus, A minus territory. I appreciate it. Okay, I'm flatter. That's cute. That's cute. All your sweet. If you tell a guy that he's sweet, it's almost like telling him that he's cute. It's not. He wants to be hot for you. Right. So instead of your sweet. That was not thoughtful. Right. Again, initially, we don't want to compliment him if he's already giving compliment. It's like you're competing versus his compliment. Go give him the space to compliment you. That's what he wants to do. But you feel like you gotta go head to head with him and everything. It's too much. Let him do all of this. Let him pursue. After two or three compliments that he gives you, then we give Him a compliment back. Don't give him one to one compliment. Honey. Yeah. Makita said, you're making me blush. Love that girl. Love that. Coco said, what about me is beautiful? So now we're putting him on the witness stand. Right now we're interrogating him. We're feeling. You're saying, okay, now you have to prove what you just said. It's too much work. Too much work. Right. Just accept the compliment, the inter feminine energy. When you talk about what about these beautiful. You're giving lawyer interrogation at the end of an SVU episode. Okay. Are you fighting with me? That's cute. That's cute. So you can put it on the table or not, right? That's cute. You have a good eye. That's cute too. That's cute too. Positive reinforcement is key. Yes. You always want to inspire them, girl. Whether you're being played with, courted in a relationship, it doesn't stop. Kimberly said, are you always like this? Or I might, girl. Your dreams. Cute, cute, cute. Okay. Ms. Life says, you look familiar. They say, okay, so if I come up to you and he says, you look familiar, what are y' all saying? What's the tea? What's the tea? We'll get. We'll get into. You look familiar. Someone said, oh, really cute. Jen said, I get that a lot. Okay. A man with good taste. Yes. That's like a b. You see me in your dreams. Okay, we're getting a little bit hot. So now here's the thing. Everyone puts in a different way, right? So sometimes you might be a bit older or you might keep it cute. More traditional, Right? You look familiar. Really? Where have we seen each other? See how I said, where did you see? I didn't say, where did you see me? Where did we see each other? Right? Meaning we're already. We already are connected. It's almost like destiny a little bit, right? Where do we see each other? So now he has to think of, well, I go here and here and here and here. Do you go those places? And now we're in a conversation. Oh, really? Huh. Okay. But we gotta give him a little bit more, right? That's the thing. We can't. We gotta, like, he's in this flirt Jacuzzi, right? And we gotta be in the Jacuzzi with him to have some fun. We can't just, like, let them be there by themselves. Yeah. Archaic. I like it. So we already know each other. Yes. Yes. God, yes. Yeah. All right, y'. All. Y' all are picking this up. I feel like from the first one till now, we're already making mad improvements in our flirting. Do we feel it? Do we understand the mentality? No. We haven't even talked about the eyes, the smile, right? Some of the girls, some of y' all are smizing at these guys, but it's looking mean. That's giving. Skeptical, right? We actually want more wider eye with a smile. Yeah. See that? My lip a little like that. That shows interest like that. Did you see that cuteness? That's what you want to get. That was a little bit much. But we want wider eye, we want smiles, and we want to tilt in the neck a little bit so you can. You can see the little nape of the neck, honey, right? Like I always say, honey, these men are like vampires. They want to chomp, chomp on that neck, honey. Twilight cheese. Yeah, but if your eyes are asymmetrical, girl. Doesn't matter, girl. Doesn't matter. You said my smile is like this. Don't do that, girl. Keep as top teeth resting on your bottom lip. That's it. Yeah. Tilt to the good side, child. Tilt where your eyes are symmetrical, girl. No shade. Y' all work on your smile in the mirror. You know when you're getting ready in the morning for work, work on it there. While you're looking in the mirror, you're watching your face. You said to yourself, just like The A&TM girls used to do. What are. If a guy says, oh, hey, how's it going? Do you come around here often? What are you saying? I'm a little bit of everywhere. Okay, mysterious.

Depends. Lol. Okay, mysterious.

MJ said I could. Give me a reason to. Okay. Little bowl. Mary says, I say yes. Conversation is dead right there. Yes again. We want to play hot potatoes. So it is something like. If he says something like, you come around here often, you want to let him know if you're. If you like him. Okay, there's two kind of answers. If you're not into him, you want to give a big response. If you're in him, he's like, yeah, I'm here on Fridays because. Let's say we're at the gym. Yeah, I work out here every Friday. That's my. That's my gym time. When do you come? Right? So now we get to understand when each other's coming. And we can align more for future reference, for future times, why most guys might not close. Often times actually won't close a deal on the first go around. It's this. It's the time scroll. We're not in the 90s anymore. Oftentimes the second time or the third time that y' all talk or engage, that we're exchanging numbers. So you want to be able. You want him to know. Okay. You want him to know when you're going to be found. So if he knows. Okay, yeah, I come here on Fridays. Cute. Now he knows he's gonna come here on Fridays. Right. Then we have a conversation because we're again asking him a question back. Most y' all just answer, and it deads the combo. Get a little flip response back. Give a question back. Yeah. What about you? Nicole said, no, I don't. Do you? Oh, girl. Damn. What do you do? Yeah, let's. Let's. Here's how we have this conversation. Girl, this has to be fun. I'm not feeling a lay here. Michelle said I can be. Okay, that's. That's gonna be interest. Interest, right. Intrigue. Tasha said I might. I might start now. Yes, now we're getting into it. She says I lie and say I just moved to area. Girl, don't lie on the first interaction. Girl, not. Not you. Really funny love and a hopeless place with that lie, girl. Yeah. Okay. Cat, I love this. Not really, but should I? Yes. And y' all giving it. Y' all giving it now. Before, y' all were sticking the muds no shade. And now y' all are rivers, honey. Flow it. You see how it just flows, right? Do you see how we just. They give to us. We give it back, girl. It's like this flow of energy. It's not like. It's not this again.

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Yes. Yes, honey. Y' all getting it. Honey. This is, like, really, really making me really happy. Yes. Arty gal. Not often enough. Yes. Oh, ladies fools, girl. Love doctor. She said, now that I know you're here. Absolutely. Okay, so it's a little forward, but if you're that girl, get it right again. We don't want to feel like we're chasing him. We want to feel always a little bit out of his reach, Right? Accessible, but out of his reach. You know, like when you're at work and in the annual meeting, you're talking about, what are your goals for next year? And it's like. It's like a little bit of a reach goal, but if you, like, work really, really hard, you can get it. That's what you want to give. Okay? So the guy says, hey, can I talk to you? What are y' all saying? A lot of people said no. Someone said, sure, what's up? I don't know. Can you. Oh, my God. If you get grammar police girl. F. F, F. If you give no D. If you say, sure, C. That's average. Give me something more. This is. We're doing a little bit of a flirt session right now. So flirt, girls. Okay. What about okay, C plus, I'd rather you not just D grawl. Someone said, you already are.

Give me more, ladies. Give me more. So if he comes up to you and he says something like, hey, can I talk to you? What interesting subject would you like to talk about? See, I already got in a position. Now, again, we've given him an accessible challenge, and now he has to come up with some interesting things to talk about, Right? And now we have something to tease about. So, for example, anything that he talks about that we don't find super interesting, we get to go back to that line and we get to say, now, I thought we were going to talk about interesting things. Right? Playfully. In a very fun manner. Because all these guys will come, like, with some. Or come real boring. So we gotta know. He's gotta come correct. We're doing it in a light, fun and playful way. Some interesting things you want to discuss. Smile, eyes, tilt, right? All inviting. Now he wants. I'd love to discuss how we can get to know each other. Well, that's really simple, but do you have anything more interesting to talk about right now? We're teasing. Now it's banter. Now it's interaction. Yeah. The girl said, I'm sensing girl. Wash on, wash off.

Yeah. Someone said, I start singing jokes. Yeah. Y' all see? Start singing 10 of Campbell can't talk. He needs to stop doing that first. Yes. Okay, Charlotte, this is the gag. Take notes, please. She says yes. So you have to tell me the joke first. Let these men work for you. Yes. Yes. You know, peacocks, they want to throw their feathers out because they want to show, like, what their gag is, Right? Let them work for you. They derive pleasure from when they have to do things for you. Yeah. So you have to tell me joke first. Let them work. Yeah. This is. This is great. This is great. Well, now you've gotten my attention, right? So you get to say that we got to add something more to it. Right? Now you got my attention. Don't mess it up. Right? Anticipation, Right? A little bit of pressure right now he's got to come correct.

Yes. So, ladies, I'm giving you a sliver of some of the things that we do in my program. Right? This is important because as I've been saying for a long time. That's what happens to me in real life. Yeah. So I'm going to stop with the flir. If you want to continue to do more of this work, you need to run my program. Signing. Sorry about it. Yeah.