Anwar White argues that waiting for approaches in everyday places attracts low-quality men. Instead, spend time in exclusive spaces like airport lounges, Whole Foods, golf courses, and fundraisers where you'll meet more serious, established men.
Someone said how to get approached more.
Well, first of all, I don't want us to feel like we need to get approached because most of the guys that approach you in the wild are wild. I say this all the time, and I'm going to continue to repeat it. These men that are approaching you at a gas station or a Walmart or whatever store door that you're going to. Wait, hold on. Someone said, wow, so you used to be straight? Girl.
There'S nothing straight about me. I need you to bring yourself up to the 2000s and the 2000s.
Anybody can have a child. All three of my children were born via surrogacy, by the way. Okay, so just an FYI.
But the question was about being approached. Men that approach you. I want you to think about men that approach you in the wild as beggars, as homeless men that are asking for change.
It's inappropriate.
Those men are.
They're just trying to get as many numbers as possible.
And then they're just trying to. They're going to work all those numbers and see who will sleep with them first. It's a game to them.
So I think it's important for you to understand that, like, the win is not getting approached more.
It's about being in spaces where you are engaging with men that are about something. Have you ever. Have you seen a man that is about his business? Chatting with random people.
In everyday life, picking up people?
Respectfully speaking.
That'S. And I don't want to be an ass. It's poor man stuff.
Okay?
What I say is I think it's important for us to be meeting men in what I call velvet rope spaces.
Places where not everybody goes to.
Whether it's an invisible velvet rope or an actual physical velvet rope.
Okay.
So what does that look like, an invisible velvet rope? A gala? A conference.
Whole Foods.
Right.
Velvet road spaces are places and spaces where not everybody gets to come in.
Either because they don't think that they belong or that they can't afford to.
Okay, no shade. Airports, golf courses. Right. Fundraisers.
Cigar lounges. Used to be velvet rope spaces, but honey, cigar lounges, yes. Hookah? No.
Specifically for my Atlanta, my Houston people.
What sections in the airports? The lounges.
Singapore Airlines.
Don't meet any men at Spirit Frontier.
Don't do it.
Do you hear me?
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
