Dating coach Anwar White maps five relationship stages and the specific issues that block progress through them: dishonesty stops stage 1, poor communication traps stage 2, chronic judgment keeps couples in stage 3, and large ego prevents stage 4. Only partners with all the skills plus spiritual connection reach stage 5.
Questions this video answers
Months 0–2 of dating or 0–2 years of marriage.
Months 3–6 of dating or years 3–4 of marriage.
Months 6–12 of dating or years 5–10 of marriage.
Dating 12–24 months or 10+ years of marriage.
Co-creation and bliss (deep intuitive/spiritual connection; co-creating projects like business, art, charity).
Chapters
Girl, I can tell how long you're going to be dating a guy or how long you're going to be married to a guy based on his relationship skills as a dating coach for almost 16 years now, and as your fairy godbrother, I'm going to share with you what I know since I have a front row seat all day, every day to let you know based on what your guy doesn't have, how long your relationship is going to last. So if he is dishonest and not transparent, or he's not in his masculine energy and he's not able to romance you, you will not get past relationship stage one, which is the honeymoon period. Now this is between months zero and two of the relationship or zero to two years in a marriage. And you won't get past it because you need to be romance and to fall in love, you have to trust. And if he is not being fully honest, you won't be able to trust him. Now, if he has serious communication issues, if he's still going through any sort of childhood stuff, and if he is unwilling to change, he's going to be stuck in the second relationship stage, which is all about the power struggle or the comfortable stage. Now oftentimes in this stage, which happens between months three and six of dating, or between the years of three and four in relationships, which is the biggest divorce and 90% of people actually stop at this place because.
Oftentimes what will happen is he will stop doing the things that he used to do and one person will withdraw, another person will pursue and that will breed a lot of resentment. So if he doesn't have these skills, he will stop at stage two of the relationship stages. If he is super judgmental or he's never satisfied, he will get stuck in relationship stage three, which is all about stability. This is about acceptance versus judging the other person. This is a conscious choice that I know your great sides and your not so great sides and I'm choosing to accept you and to co create something different with you. But if he's always in his judgmental era, it will never work, okay? And he will get stuck in relationship stage three, which happens between months six through 12 of the dating process or years five through 10 of a marriage. If he has a very big ego, he will never get past relationship stage four, which is all about commitment. And this happens between when you're dating 12 to 24 months or if you're in a relationship 10 plus years. Okay, what does this mean? Because in that stage of the relationship, the relationship has to be about the partnership first and the individual second. But if he's making everything about him the longest that a relationship will last will be actually at that 24 month mark or at the 10 year mark in a marriage. And then lastly, if he has all of those skills that I've just mentioned and he's intuitive, there's a spiritualness connection happening, then he's hit the fifth stage of relationship stages, which is all about co creation and bliss. This is where y' all know each other better than you know yourselves. This is where you co create something, whether it is a business, art, charity in some way that you had so much love and connection that you want to share with the outside world. So let me know when you think about all of your relationships and dating and marriage if I've hit the nail on the head. Now this is assuming that you have boundaries and that you're stepping away when you see these things and they're not fully serving you. But let me know if that is the case and if you need help evaluating these things while you're dating, definitely book a call with me. I would love to help you.
