A listener asks how to start dating after 14 years single. The speaker recommends using real photos, taking up space with your body, and doing a mirror gratitude exercise to build confidence. How you treat yourself shapes how others will treat you.
Lil Lean 7. How do I put myself out there again? I'm so scared. I've been single for 14 years. I'm so insecure with my body. I've only ever dated my ex husband. Here's what I want you to understand.
Make sure that you have accurate pictures on your profile.
You're gonna have to get right with your body. You're gonna have to own every bit of it.
Right.
I and it's interesting. A lot of curvier and plus sized women in my experience are not taking up as much space as they need to. Like, don't shrink yourself. Whatever space you're giving right now, take all of that and more.
Right.
One of the exercises that I do with some of my clients who are having some, you know, feeling, having feelings about their body is I want you to get go into the mirror and I want you to strip down and I want you to be thankful and grateful for every part of your body. It's actually a very powerful exercise.
Right.
I'm thankful for my big lips and explain why you are thankful for them. I'm thankful for my ashy elbows and say why are you thankful for them, girl?
Right.
I'm thankful for my acne scars because you know, X, Y and Z.
I'm thankful for my wider no. So that I can breathe like a queen, honey.
Right.
Whatever it is, be thankful for each and every part of it.
There are reasons why your body is the way that it is and we have to love on it. So if you're not loving on it, other people won't.
Yeah.
Energetically you will. You will teach people how to treat you.
And once you love on your body, you will want to protect it even more.
Okay.
I hope that's helpful.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
