Anwar White reframes romantic rejection as part of the game, not a personal failing. He notes 97% of people won't be matches, and when someone rejects you, they know only 3-10% of who you are. Each no moves you closer to the person who's actually right for you.
Deba said how to stop taking rejection as a bad thing. Here's how I think about it.
When this happens. Well, first of all, 97% of the guys out there are not going to be a match for you. So I think people think that every person has the potential to be a match for you and that's not the case. So for the 97% of the time, you're getting disappointed in but hurt and you think it's a rejection when really it's like, it's the rules of dating. It's the dating game, girl. Yeah. You're like, it, it would be the same as playing Monopoly and getting mad that you get in. You know, you only get in $200 to go, pass go instead of 500. It's the rules of the game, girl. Here's how I think about rejection that I think it will be important for you to reframe. Please understand that your future guy is praying for you to not match with all of these guys.
Yeah.
Because he wants you and if you're engaged with these guys, he can't be with you. So every time it's an, it's a non match, you are getting closer to your guy. That's how I think about it.
I don't really, I don't really call it rejection because it's not that most of these guys don't know you enough to reject you. They know 3, 5, 10% of you.
Yeah.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
