Short monologue by Anwar White advising people (primarily women) to ‘stress a man out’ as a test: be vulnerable, set and enforce clear boundaries, and give him problems to solve to evaluate his emotional availability and provider tendencies. The speaker argues that allowing men to solve problems (e.g., carrying groceries, changing a light bulb) activates masculine/provider instincts and can increase attraction, and frames these tactics as evaluative rather than manipulative.
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So if you see videos of me saying stress that mofo out, you better believe that I mean it. And the way that I think about stressing men out, it's not about being a girl. Anybody can do that. That's easy. Don't be a. Just like you don't like assholes, men don't like bitches. When I say stress men out, I'm talking about be vulnerable with them. Men are not used to holding space and exchanging emotions. That's stressful for them. Why? So that you can evaluate whether he's emotionally available or not. When I say stress him out, I mean set boundaries with him. It is stressful to understand where the line is and where the line is not. So when you continue to set boundaries with him, that will create stress. And the stressful part is making sure that he stays within your boundaries.
Yeah. When I say stress him out, I mean give him problems to solve. Providers provide solutions and solve problems. And you want to see if he's a provider, so you want to. When he says he wants to do something for you, you let him do it so that he can solve that problem for you. That will actually help to increase his testosterone and also will. With that increased testosterone, he'll more likely fall in love with you. And I don't mean that in a manipulative way. I just mean that like so many ladies out there are like the. I got it, girls, girl, you're doing yourself a disservice. Let all these men have it, girl. Oh, you have no arms, you have no legs, girl, you're just a stump. No shade. Let him take your groceries in. Let him change that light bulb. Let him take a look at. Under that. Under that. What do they call it, girl? That hood of the. Of the car. As you can tell, girl, I haven't worked on a car a day in my life, girl. Couldn't even say the hood. Let somebody else do it. You hear me?
That. That's good stress. Because he wants men that are in the true masculine energy want to do those things for you, you know, hope that's helpful.
