Short YouTube coaching clip (targeting Black and brown women) arguing that being 'selfish' and 'self-centered' in dating is positive: it prevents people-pleasing (a trauma response), helps attract self-actualized men who have done inner work, and avoids attracting toxic/narcissistic users. The speaker repeatedly emphasizes making your love life 'all for you.'
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Hey girl, do you know how I help my clients win as a dating coach for black and brown women? Well, it's a big secret. Actually it's not a secret at all. Let me just tell you.
This is all about.
Being selfish.
And self centered.
Now I know that goes against everything that you've been conditioned and programmed to do because most of our mothers and grandmothers taught us to give and over give and to people. Please girl that is the worst thing that you can do in dating and I'm going to tell you why. When you are selfish and.
Self centered.
You will actually.
Attract self.
Actualized men because those men are in service to other people. Those men have done the work within themselves and they don't need you to give to them and do all this stuff for them they want to do for you. When you are giving over giving people pleasing, well one that's a trauma response but two you will attract the.
Toxic.
Narcissistic guys that are users so you don't do yourself any favors. I mean girl, TikTok has a for you page. Take a beat from TikTok. Your love life has to be all for you, all for you.
Here's the thing ladies. If once.
You are selfish and self.
Centered you.
Will attract self.
Actualized men and those men will deliver for you and the guys that aren't won't. Now if you want to learn how to heal some of that programming and learn how to get into your selfish era, definitely book a call with me. But let me know are you an over giver or are you selfish in your dating life today?
