I Have Something For You!

Hello, hello, hello, everyone. Don't I have something to offer to you. As you can tell, I am out of my mind. Because this is what happens in December when you're working really hard, as most of you are. So I'm pretty sure that you're feeling some type of way. I hope all of you are doing well. So in the next, I don't know, 10 or 15 minutes, I'm going to talk to you a little bit about what I have going on for 2022 for, for all of my ladies out there that want to turn the page and have a new chapter of their love life. So I have been coming on here because I think it is important as we think about the new year, if you're like me, you're already in strategy mode. You're already trying to figure out what are my goals from an educational, health, love, social, career perspective. And I'm hoping that love is something that you're prioritizing in 2022 because there are some amazing men out there, there are amazing love opportunities out there. And I would hate for you to kind on the sideline and watch while other people are getting their entire love life while maybe you are sitting back and being fake happy for everyone else.

So I hope that that's not you. I don't want that to be you, but I want to keep it real. This is how it looks like, right? Where we get into this comparison, compare and despair with other people that decided to invest both from an emotional, from a heart space, from time perspective, where they can actually be really killing it in their love lives. I think that you deserve that as well. And so that's why I have created this amazing, amazing program for ladies that are really interested in actually getting their guy in 2022. And so I'll talk about it today. So what do I have for you? I have an amazing group program that is starting the beginning of January. So what are we going to be doing in this group program? Well, it's going to be an intimate group, so it's only going to be a group of 10 women because I want to make sure that we have a container that is safe and sacred so that everyone can feel licensed to share and to really get the most out of the program. So what does this look like? So my group program that's starting at the beginning of the year is going to be amazing from women all over North America. And every week we're gonna get on a call together, generally on Thursday nights, and I'll talk a little bit about that session. Later. But I just wanna also give you an understanding of what the support looks like as well. So I'm also gonna have an office hour so that you can drop in if you have general questions that you wanna talk through kind of face to face. I'm there to support you as well. I generally have those office hours on Sunday because I found most of my busy times are Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Those are the big date nights. And so Sunday is a good time to kind of download on those dates. So those office hours are really date downloading times. Okay. What does the support look like as well? Beyond these office hours, you're going to be able to contact me via Voxer, so you'll be able to text with me. And if something is going on, if you're spiraling, if something gets triggered while you're doing your work, or when you're dating, or when you're having conversations with guys on a dating app, I'm going to be able to be there for you when something comes up. And this is going to be the case for six whole months. Right. This is the same kind of opportunity that I give to my clients, my one on one private clients. But I found it is very necessary if you are going to level up your dating and love life. And so I'm giving that support to a small container of 10 women as well. Right. Okay. So we've talked about the group sessions, the talked about the office hours and we've talked about kind of just like the accessibility to a dating coach. Right. That I got to be honest with you, when I talk to my fellow dating coaches, they don't do this. Why don't they do this? Because it takes a lot of freaking time. But I do it because I know that it's necessary to the work to get you to your love goals. Right. I have talked to six of my clients today. Right. Because things are needed every day. It's the little things that start to add up that will help you increase your confidence in dating. And if you have a blockage, being able to just briefly talk through it, get past it and level up, that's what the Voxer messaging is all about. So I want to make sure that you have that that's available to you so that you can actually achieve your love goals. So I've talked about the support, but I want to talk about what these sessions are going to look like. One of the reasons why we have the sessions and why we learn in community is one, because I want you to know that you're not alone, that there are other women that are doing the exact same thing that you're doing. Right. That some of the. I mean, I think sometimes we can feel like there's something wrong with us and that's why I'm single. There's nothing wrong with you. I want to be very clear that the work that we are going to be doing is about deprogramming what you learned in your life and finding a new way of doing things and reprogramming in a way that's going to best serve you right. And I think it is so helpful to actually do this in community where you are sharing with a variety of women from all walks of life that are going to be there to support you and that are going to be there to actually be doing the same exact thing that you are going to be doing. It's really powerful. The other reason I'm doing a group program is because I've been maxed out for the past year and a half and I can't take on any more private one on one clients. I also, from what I've been hearing as well is because I do have group coaching calls on a monthly basis for my current clients. Just because I think it's important to actually.

Work and learn in community. What I've seen is that everyone is going to be in a different part of their love journey and having to talk about, let's say, how the conversation should go in an exclusive conversation before you get an exclusive relationship will help you even if you're in the beginning stages of your love life, so that you understand what to expect and what to do. Right. And part of my work is making sure that you know exactly what to expect at every stage of the way. That also you have the thought process of how to date, how to like what your strategy is. Because let's keep it real. Most of y' all don't have a strategy and that's why your results are here, there and everywhere, as my grandmother would say. Right. So we're gonna put all have a strategy, an effective strategy that helps you only date high quality men and from there be able to heal the parts of ourselves to actually be the women that are ready for that leveled up relationship that you've always desired. The work we're going to do is both external and internal and to be able to learn at different stages of that is just so important and so powerful. So that's why we have women from all different parts of their love journey on the same call. And it's just like the learning just gets accelerated. And amplified. And it's amazing. Some of these sessions we will go through some of the hardcore work that's in the online program that accompanies the program. Some of it will do breakout sessions where we're going to get a little bit more intimate, a little bit more vulnerable into some of that work, which is really necessary. Right. If you are going to.

Heal and get past all of the different things that are coming up for you. Right? Yeah. I'm so glad, Diva, you talked about that. You've noticed that you need to change your patterns, girl. You're not the only one. If you're following, get your guy coaching. It means that you probably know that you need to change some of your dating patterns as well. Here's the thing. I, as a dating coach will always keep you accountable. But there's something to be said for another number of ladies that are also going to keep you accountable, hold you when you need to be held and also cheer you on and rock with you when you are killing it, when you are setting boundaries, when you are letting men go, when maybe before you wouldn't have let them go because you were so desperate for a man, or.

When you don't know where you are and you got to figure it out that this community is going to give you space to do that. Right? So let me talk a little bit about my online program because I think people are like, well, one, why the hell do I need a dating coach? And two, why do, like, what am I going to learn that I already don't know? Right. I think those are really important questions that I want to answer so that you're super clear. So in terms of the actual online program that accompanies the weekly date coaching calls as well as office hours, the first module is all about dating strategy.

The first thing that we're going to do is actually figure out what your dating strategy is. It means that we're going to have a phone call, one on one, because I have to know you before I can figure out what apps you need to be on and how we need to position you. Not to make you sound like a product, but I want to make sure that you're putting your best foot forward here. You might have profiles out in these online dating streets that are not putting you in the best light, girl. Men look at dating profiles differently than women do. And if you tell your girlfriends and show them, hey, girl, what do you think about these pictures? They might say yes, but for men, it might be, that's not it. That's not hidden. So the beautiful thing, I think, and the reason why I've gotten so many great results is because I have both the female and the male perspective. So we're going to meet before the program starts to understand you a little bit and also come up with a strategy for you that means exactly what apps we're going to use and how to really position you. So it's all about. The first month is really all about because this is a six month program. It's all about dating strategy and getting comfortable in that. So in that time, we're going to pick out your photos, we're going to create your dating profile, which is I do dating profiles completely different than a lot of other people do it. So we're going to go through that and I'll talk to you about why I do what I do because it's an art and it's a science and there are levels to this shit, girl. Right. So I want to make sure that you are also understanding why we've done the things that we've done. Okay, then I'm going to teach you my proprietary dating system that is so helpful in making sure that you're only talking to the cream of the crop, the highest quality men. I think oftentimes what happens is that you don't have a strategy. So you have men coming to you and you don't and you're just kind of accepting it because you're being chosen. And that's great and that's fun. But we don't know how to really evaluate them and we don't have ways in which to compare them and to make sure that they're showing up for us. So many women out there will actually first figure out, do I like him? And if I like him or he's okay, then I'll continue talking to him. We do things a little bit differently. These men have to show up for my clients and we have different ways to do that. First and foremost, once they prove that they can show up, then we start to evaluate them as a potential match, just a little bit reverse than how most people do it. And that's why we get such great results. It also means that we're going to be prioritizing quality over quantity. So I want to be really clear here. You're not going to be going on two or three or four dates a week. That's not my program. You might be going on one date every two to three weeks, a physical one. Right. And so if that is okay with you, if you feel like you can do that, because Some women can, and that's fine. I respect whatever you want to do. I want you to be really clear about what it's going to look like, because just realize that that date is going to be a really high quality date. Now, I go on podcasts all the time, and one of the things that I quote is I say nine out of the 10 guys are not going to be the one, but you have to go on 10 physical dates. That's true if you're just regularly dating. With my system, I've run the numbers because I always do. For my system, it's one out of six dates. So if you're going on six physical dates, you're probably going to find your guy within the six dates. That's why most of my clients find their guy around month four, right in the six month program. Okay, so the first section is the dating strategy. The second section, the second module in the online program is all about vulnerability. Why do we focus on vulnerability so quickly? You would think that why would I need to, like, really focus in and hone in on vulnerability? Without it, you have no connection with a man. Absolutely no connection. You may think you're vulnerable, but girl, when we do this work, you'll realize that you are at a level two or three. And this work is going to get you to an 8, 9 or 10, right on the scale. That is what a man needs. And we have to be able to connect with him in a vulnerable level. Why? Because he needs to know how you're feeling at all times. And so fine and okay, and I'm good. It doesn't work. He has to be able to connect with you and feel safe enough around you to also share his vulnerability. Girl, he's at work all day, every day going to war intellectually, right? And doing, doing, doing. When he comes home, he wants to feel like he can take off the armor and be vulnerable with you. And it means that you have to be vulnerable first. And if you haven't been comfortable being vulnerable, it's a wrap. You're never going to deeply connect with a man. And without that connection, you won't be in a relationship. So this is why we get to vulnerability pretty quickly, so that you have the rest of the program to really hone and master the vulnerability. Okay, why are we being vulnerable? Why are we focusing on this as well? Because when you're in a relationship, you're just going to have to be vulnerable with how you're feeling at all times. The crazy thing about so many of my clients are in relationships now is that they didn't know that they had to speak up as much about their emotional needs.

But they do. And that's what successful relationships require. And if you're not in the practice of it, you're going to shut down, you're going to play the toxic silent game and it's just going to create distance. And I don't want that. I want you to be well versed in being able to spend, speak your truth, but also be vulnerable in a way that it can be digestible for a man. Okay, so that's module two. Module three is all about confidence. Yes, girl, confidence. Confidence in this new system. Confidence in yourself, your worth, what you desire and what you need, right? This is where we get into your energy in this dating game. Who you are and who you want to be. It's such a fun module because we get to choose and decide who we want to be in this love game. In this dating game. And part of this module is also about not trying to figure out some alter ego and pretend to be her like you're Sasha Fierce, but actually to dig in deep and figure out what is the essence of you. Right? And I will say this as a father who has an eight year old daughter and has done the research after around seven years old, girls change. School, boys, teachers, family, right? And it knocks their confidence. It hits them, hits them, hits them, hits them and it breaks them down. So part of, part of our work is to get back to that five, six, seven year old girl and make sure that that essence is coming out and dating. Because when you're in a safe relationship, that's what's going to come out. Not this hard exterior. Work, work, work. Project managed, woman. So we got to get into that now so that he can know who you truly are, so that he can become in love with that versus this facade of who you truly are. And if you're saying amwar. Well, I don't do facades. I'm real, I'm real. Okay, girl, when a fine man comes up to you, are you still real or does your voice go up a little bit, A little bit of a higher octave? Does your body language change a little bit, either shyly or coyly or hard and defensively, right? We're gonna practice to have none of that, to be still, to be confident, to be focused, right? Okay. Module four. Module four. It's all about mindset, y'. All. Mindset. Because if you cannot manage your mind, you will not be able to manage your dating life. And your life, life is 50 50. 50 good. 50% not so good. You have to be able to manage both the not so good and the good. Right? And so. And that's how this, this is how the dating and love game goes. I think sometimes think it's. People think it's like a roller coaster. I actually don't think that that's the case in my program. I would consider it more like a step function. You, you do some work, you level up, you stay at that place for a little bit, you do some work, some breakthroughs, you level up, stay at that place, and you continue leveling up. So that's how it looks like when you're in my program. And that's why I think my program has been so successful for so many women out there. So. Mindset, how to manage your mind. Giving you tools to make sure that you don't freak out, that you don't spiral, that you don't get anxious and lose your mind and tell them off or text them like crazy or call them out of pocket or go to their house unannounced. I've heard all the stories, girl.

Right? We're not going to get you. We're going to make sure that you stay within yourself, right? And you do not lose yourself here. That's not what this is about. Right. And you, you will have me and the community to support you to make sure that that doesn't happen, right? Yeah. Yeah. That's important. I'm getting a comment in here talking about, I'm with someone who doesn't open up about himself or talk about his childhood. Here's the. He doesn't trust you enough to do that. That means you haven't been vulnerable enough. That's why vulnerability is in my module too. You, as a woman in the relationship, you initiate the vulnerability. And if you haven't gone deep enough, he doesn't feel safe enough going deep with you.

Work to be done. Work to be done. Okay, so we talked about four module four about dating mindset, right? Get that together, right? So that when people are acting a fool, you can still be in your centered space, right? And it also is an. It's an opportunity for you to realize and find ways to continuously check in with yourself, right? So much of our lives is about doing, doing, doing. Look at these checklists, girl. Look at this calendar with this checklist, girl. We're always doing, doing, doing, and there's never a chance for us to actually check in. And the mindset tools that I'm going to give you are going to allow you to Continuously check in. Because here's the thing, if you don't check in, you won't know how you're feeling. And if you don't know how you're feeling, you can't communicate to him how you're feeling. And if he doesn't know how you're feeling. Right. He's not going to mind read. If he can't, then he won't know how to make it better.

If he can't make it better, there's going to be disconnection. This is why it's important for us to check in and this is why it's important for us to get our mindset together. Yeah. Okay. Module 5 is all about clarity. What do I mean when I say clarity? Clarity means masculine and feminine energy. We're going to focus on your energy and what you want. Right. There are some of my clients that want to stay in their dominant masculine energy. Some of my clients want to kind of sit into their feminine energy, even if they haven't been able to in the past. So first we have to understand how you are. Now I have amazing worksheets and exercises. So all of these modules have exercises and worksheets that you have to fill out to help you get clarity. Some of these worksheets we'll do in the coaching sessions, some of them you'll do on your own. But we will be talking through them at every step of the way. Right. So that you have full clarity of what that looks like and what that means to you. So this energy exercise is going to be one that's really important. That one will talk about why you're in your energy, that you are in. And if you want to switch energies, how do you do that in a way that feels comfortable and safe for you? Right. Why is this important? This is important because most of the high achieving women that I work with are in their masculine energy, but they stay wanting a masculine man. And that doesn't work, girl. That doesn't work. It's like having, you know, two drivers in a car. Like someone's gonna go this way, someone's gonna go. It's like two steering wheels, two drivers. That's not gonna, that's not gonna work, right? So it means that either you need to find a more a man who's more in his dominant feminine energy, more nurturing if you wanna stay in your masculine, or you're going to need to figure out how to feel safe in your feminine energy, which requires healing. It requires the fact that something you've had experiences in your Past that have disallowed you from feeling comfortable in that way. So we talk about that, we get that healed up a little bit so you can feel more comfortable and confident in that feminine energy.

What else do we do? In this clarity module, we're also going to focus on your needs, right. Versus your wants so that we can start evaluating men based on those things, based on.

What'S going to help you have a long lasting relationship that is going to be 20, 30, 40 years long. Right. The things that you want are going to satisfy you for the first year or two. Yeah, I always think, I think about it in this way. What you want is like a prom date, a really cute one who looks good when you take pictures with him, who's tall, who's handsome, who's funny, who will make you have a really good memorable prom night. Right?

Prom date, what we want, long term partner, what we need. And those things you'll never figure out if you just go on a prom date with him. There are deeper seated things that we have to understand and know about ourselves so that we can be evaluating those men based on those different KPIs. Key performance indicators. Yeah, maybe I should call them KDIs, key dating indicators.

And this also means that when we are with someone, like let's say we're in a relationship with him or we're about to be in a relationship with them, we can evaluate him based on the needs that we have and if he's hitting them or not. Some guys may hit some of them and not the other ones. Which means that it's important for you to be able to communicate those other needs that are not being fulfilled. But you wouldn't know those unless you went through these exercises. Right? Okay, so that's module five, all about clarity. Module six is all about healing. Healing. Healing past relationships, healing parental relationships, feeling so many things, healing that girl who is in that really shitty situationship or toxic relationship or narcissistic relationship. Right. Understanding your own dating patterns and also healing and forgiving yourself. Right. One of the exercises that we do is that we actually write a letter to ourselves and we forgive ourselves for all of the dating mistakes we've ever made. We write it all out there and we share it and we share it with friends and we share it with each other and we cry and we laugh and we cry some more and we get it all out and then we release and we burn that letter and we never think about it again and we move forward in a new, safe whole way. Right. We also heal from our parental wounds, we get clear about what's driving those things, why I do the things that I do in relationships. Right? If you're not being vulnerable, it's probably because you didn't have your emotional needs met when you were a kid. We've got to clarify when that happened, why it happened, so we can also understand what the triggers are for you. So that when someone does something unintentionally and you blow up, you realize why. Because when you understand the why, you won't blow up anymore. You'll realize, oh, that's Amwar from his eight year old birthday. That's not Amwar at almost 40 years old. Right. Minimizes the trigger, breaks it in half. Module six about healing.

So we've gone through all of these different modules.

So transformative. So, so, so transformative. And to do this work in a very safe, smaller container. Game changer. Game changer. So I hope that that gives you clarity in terms of what you exactly need, right? What you're going to experience when you come into the group program and everything that you're going to be learning, because that's important. I also want to say for the module one, I have my own, not just like I talked about my dating system that will take you from first message to first date, but I also have a system that will take you from date one to exclusivity and exclusive relationship. And that's tough, that's difficult. There are so many women out there that go on two, three dates and then it just breaks off, right? Because we don't understand the momentum of the relationship. We don't understand where.