Mastering Your Energy With Michael Blunt

Hey, girl. Welcome to the GetYourGuy coaching podcast. My name is Anwar White, but you can just call me your own personal dating and relationship coach. Each week, you'll hear actionable advice, tips, and strategies that you can implement in your own love life. I'm talking about healing your heart, dating effectively, and understanding men so that you can. You guessed it, get your guy. Are you ready to level up your love life? All right, let's go. I never felt the way I do without anyone but you. Hello, my loves. And thank you so much for joining me on the get yout Guy coaching podcast. I have a very special guest. He is the first male guest on the GetYourGuy coaching podcast. He's a friend. We have gone through quite a few different journeys together, and I'm just so happy to introduce to you all the energy coach and the creator and founder of this CP3 method. What did you say?

The C3 method.

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I have to.

This is my initiation.

I have to. No, y'. All. Okay. More seriously, you all. It is a C3 method, which is amazing, and we'll talk a little bit about in this podcast. But I want to introduce you all to Michael Blunt. Thank you so much for being here, Mike.

Thank you. Thank you for having me. As I was telling you, I'm really excited to be swimming and bathing in divine feminine. So when you. So when you invited me on this podcast, I was like, yes, more, maybe. Please, please, please, please invite me to this. I would love to talk to women. I would love to share my secrets and the tools that I've learned from just really being balanced. Balance between divine feminine and divine masculine, and learning the interplay between those two, which are not, you know, gender normative. It's really just about energy.

Well, thank you so much for that. If we do get cut off, people realize that this man is living his best life in Mexico. And sometimes the WI fi is a little sketch. So if we do hear some cutoffs, we know what it is.

I manifested my best life.

For sure. Let's talk a little bit about who you serve and a bit about your business. The C3 method.

Yeah, absolutely. So who I served are the unbalanced, the people who are looking to make a transition, and the people who are looking to find the tools to create balance in their lives. Too many people live lives lacking in balance, and creating an extraordinary life is balanced at all levels. I might have a million dollars, but I Might be miserable in my love life. I might have a really, really powerful love life, but be miserable when it comes to interacting with my family or just feel very stressed out with the work that I'm doing. So, you know, you can upgrade in one area of your life, but really downgrade in another. And what I really offer to people is really finding balance across all areas of their lives. And I do that by teaching through self mastery and subconscious energy reprogramming. And normally, when I say those two phrases, people are like, what? Wait, tell me more.

What does that mean exactly? Tell the people what it means.

So for me, what that means is everybody is responsible for their own energy. So if you can master your energy, meaning mastering your triggers, mastering your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions and behaviors, then you can master your frequency. And once you master your frequency, you are forced to be reckoned with. And that's really what I'm teaching people. When you can really get into self mastery, you never have to go to another coaching. You never have to rely on therapists or people outside of yourself. I'm giving you the tools so that you can become your own master. And when you become your own master, you reach freedom, you reach sovereignty, and you become unlimited.

I love that so much. And I love the fact that you talked about balance. Because what I know about a lot of my clients and even the women that I don't work with but talk to, is that they make themselves super busy because there's so many voids in their life. And to compensate for them, they lean into work, or they'll try to live this luxury black girl lifestyle. Right? When really that is not like giving them what they need. Right. But they become really busy upholding what it should look like. Right. And so I'm so glad that you are talking about this, because it's not talked about a lot. And balance, as you were saying, does bring joy, does bring happiness in a lot of different ways. I'm so happy that you do the work that you do. Now, how did you get into this work?

I got into this work because I live a very unbalanced lifestyle. When I.

Were you doing too much?

I was doing the most. The most sense.

So when I came out of business school, you know, we went through MLT together, we did Columbia, I went to Kellogg, and we just thought that. That this was it. I'm gonna make my six figures, and I am gonna be set for the rest of my life.

That's right.

And when I came out, that just wasn't the case. I was Working more hours, I was getting paid more, but I was working more hours and I didn't really have time to enjoy it. So it got to the point where stress was really ruling and dictating my life so much that I started to develop tmj, which is the lock jaw in your mouth, where I had to wear mouth guards, go to sleep because I was grinding my teeth so much that it was basically sawing away my teeth. I started to develop stress hives all over my body. And then lastly, I had an anxiety attack at work. I was in the middle of a meeting. We were actually finishing the meeting with my director and I was rushed to the hospital because I could barely breathe. I don't understand why my body is breaking down at this point because, you know, I was still going to the gym. I thought that because I looked physically good, that internally I was achieving balance and internally that I would feel good. But the reality was that I didn't. Emotionally, I had hit a rock bottom. And when I understood that my emotions were the things that were really governing my life, it was like a aha moment. And that's when I knew I needed to make a choice if I wanted to live a heart centric life or if I wanted to continue living and chasing this dream of success.

One of the things that I wanted to also add to this is that when you are a black person, then you know, we are always also trying to prove ourselves and because we are naturally very hardworking people, that we will work ourselves to death. Literally. Right? We will work to death and we will continue to work ourselves to death until we have the balance and the boundaries that we need to actually set for ourselves and not have anyone else try to set them because they won't set those boundaries for us. Right. So it sounds like you were doing this, but like that was my story too. I was also working to death and getting stressed out and having digestive issues and like patches in my hair because I was working and stressed and all of that. And so I say all of this and I mention all of this because I think it is important to know you are not the only person that's experienced this. And most high achieving black individuals will go through this at some point. They're just not talking about it.

You know, I mentioned self mastery, but the other part was subconscious energy reprogramming.

Yeah.

And subconscious energy reprogramming is all about getting to down to the gene and DNA level of understanding what your underlining beliefs are, which sometimes could be limiting or sometimes it could be Upgraded. So my underlining belief, which became a limiting belief, I needed to work two and three times harder than the next man. If this person is doing this as a black man, I needed to work harder. As a minority, I needed to work 10 times harder. I needed to stay later, I needed to burn the midnight candle. I needed to do all these things. That was my belief system growing up. So if that was my belief system, then that became my reality.

I love that you mentioned this and I just want to like lay this to rest. Right. That like this is how we all grew up. And I think that we are in a different time right now. I don't. I'm not saying there's no racism, I'm not saying that there's no prejudice. I'm not saying that there's no inequality. But I want us to shift how we're framing this. We actually do not need to work twice or three times as much as the next person, but our results need to be twice or three times as good. Right. It doesn't mean that we have to work as hard as we may think that we need to. It's just our results need to be that much better. So I think it's. I think there's a different framing around actual process of work and outcomes. And if we can shift to I can make amazing outcomes and not necessarily have to work at the same rate of the outcomes. I think we can start to take care of ourselves in a different way outside of the subconscious programming that we have to like be thinking about this in a different way. And it means unlearning the things that we were taught growing up. What are your thoughts?

First of all, I agree with you. I think there definitely needs to be a reality shift and that's shifting from your limiting beliefs to an upgraded belief system. Yeah, a lot of times we adopted these beliefs from ages 0 to 7 and we installed these programs for survival, for love, for acceptance, for validation from our caretakers. And we're just mirroring, we're just becoming downloads of what we see around us, which creates your personality of who you are now. So I could be thinking as a 38 year old black male, but I could still be a seven year old little boy. This is how you see so many people who are so smart and so intelligent, but they have the emotional intelligence of, you know, somebody who's an adolescent. They don't know how to speak about their emotions, how to deal. It's how to understand their triggers. You know, they only know the mental part, which is the conscious brain. The reality is for your subconscious or your reality is you get who you are, not necessarily what you want. You getting like who you are, what you feel inside, which is the 95%, not necessarily what you want. And those two might be aligned, but if they're not, then you're always going to be having an uphill battle.

Yeah, definitely. You mentioned something that I think is really, really important and I want to just highlight for the listeners out there, which is that this time frame between birth and seven years old is of the utmost importance and this is where so much of the programming happens. So I want to encourage all of the listeners out there to really think about what was happening between ages 0 to 7 in your life, in your household, in your family's life, and how has that shaped you? Right. I don't think that we really take a step back and really think about that because we're so busy doing so many other things, but I think it will be really helpful for you to get a sense of, well, actually, you know, my mom was doing this, my dad was doing this, my siblings were doing this. Right. This is how I experience school, this is how I experience other caretakers. Right. All of these different things which I think is so important and as we're talking about, really shape who you are and then taking a step beyond that. Right. Because I think that we actually develop in seven year intervals. So we're different people from 0 to 7, 7 to 14, 14 to 21, 21 to 28, 28 to 35, 35 to 42 and so on and so. But start with the 0 to 7 years old and see kind of what are the major themes of that time so that you can have a true understanding of how the rest of your seven year intervals are really going and why.

Right.

Let's talk about kind of the subconscious tapping. What does that mean and why is it so important?

The subconscious is unbelievably important because it dictates 95% of your reality. It consists of your thoughts, feelings and your behaviors, which are your actions. So think of your subconscious like your operating system and your, your conscious brain as like the apps that you install on top of that operating system. So right now I have an iPhone and at my default factory mode, you know, I don't have any programs that are installed except the ones that come with it. So over time I'm going to install different programs, you know, just because I want my life to be more creative, I want to access my bank, et cetera. What has happened is the operating system which is our subconscious. Over time, programs have been installed that have really clouded what our truest essence or what our truest operating system originally was. Who we really are is our factory default mode. So we might have installed this program for this family member. We might have installed this because we needed to survive there, or we might have installed this program because we wanted to be accepted there. And we installed all of these programs, and we keep installing these programs and these. When I say programs, what I'm talking about is our beliefs, our belief systems. Our belief systems shape our entire reality. The whole point of energy mastery is how do we remove those different programs that are no longer serving you, that are no longer making you happy, that are no longer making you the best person that you can be. How do we uninstall those programs? And how do we install or reinstall new programs that can benefit you now, ultimately helping you to create reality on your own terms? Yeah, if you control your subconscious, you control everything. And that is what we teach.

So how do we tap into this? What are some of the ways that you have found, since you do this work quite a bit, that are efficient ways to help the listeners out there kind of tap in?

I would say the easiest way to tap into your subconscious is to relax. And it's so simple, it's silly. They're like, okay, relax. Well, think about it. Most of the time, people are running on stress. Most of the time, people are running on survival mode. Most of the time, people are running in a beta state of mindset. So they're really running on hyperactivity. I got to do this. I got to pick up my kids. I got to. I gotta come back. I gotta cook my food. I gotta take care of this person. They're just everywhere. And that decreases your capacity to really, really think outside of the box. It keeps you in a very narrow way of thinking. So when you can relax in any type of way, meditation, yoga, prayer.

I also think that being in the shower, taking a long shower or bath, or even taking a walk to relax and to have your mind go to places that it doesn't necessarily go to on an everyday basis.

Exactly. So relaxation is the most important thing that you can ever do in order to enter in into a different mode of thinking or to a different frequency of consciousness, where we're going from beta to alpha to all of these different states. And once you get into these different states, then you can start programming. You can start programming at a subconscious level.

Talk to me about what these states, because I know my girls out There are like, oh, he's talking about states. What are these? What states are we talking about here? I need to know it all. Break it down.

You are normally operating on. When you're in hyperactivity mode is your beta mode. You know, that's your beta state of consciousness when you're just in the day to day and you're just trying to get through the day. When you're just super busy, you're checking off and you were just trying to make it happen. That's beta mode, that's survival mode. And anyone knows if you are running on survival mode for the majority of time, Something's got to give. Yeah, you know, so that's when you start seeing the decline in your health. That's when you start seeing office sickness. That's when you start seeing yourself feeling very fatigued. Normally, accidents happen during this time. A lot of different things manifest during this time that you're unaware of just because you're in survival mode. The next state is your alpha state. Your alpha state is your flow state. Your flow state is kind of like, hey, when you're in the zone and you're just flowing, you're listening to your music, you're chilling on the couch, you're just moving through life effortlessly and it just feels good. You feel like you're in alpha mode. Good example is when you first wake up and you don't really want to get out of bed, but you're in that in between state, between having your eyes kind of open and you're about to step out of bed and go to the bathroom or fix yourself some tea or coffee and you're just chilling there, or when you're on the couch and you're just watching something, just kind of mindless and you just kind of fall into the couch and right before you're about to take a nap and you're feeling a little bit sleepy. Those are all alpha states. I would say that would be the beginning state where you can actually program into your subconscious. That's when you can get to a different level of consciousness.

This alpha mode. Right. Because you're talking about programming in this moment. I would also say that I think sometimes, at least for me, my alpha mode is like when I'm playing sports and maybe for other people it's like when they're running or doing something active as well, that they can get into this flow state in their mind. Is that also kind of something that you've experienced as well, or your clients?

Yes. Exercising, playing sports. You actually see it with athletes they're superstars. You know, when Serena Williams is just dominating by. She's in her flow, pretty meditative. I mean, this is meditative and this is where you really get to access, you know, your extended knowledge. Because when you're in beta, you're very sequestered and you're very siloed into one way of thinking. You're not able to look outside of box and you're not able to look outside of your current state of consciousness because you're so hyper focused on what's in front of you.

Yeah.

If you take a step back and you relax and then you can see the entire picture and that's when you start getting into alpha mode.

You were talking about programming within the alpha mode. So when you say program, what do you mean? So, for example, let's say I'm playing basketball right now. How could I program myself while I'm in my flow and my alpha state state while I'm playing basketball?

While you're playing basketball, what you can do is use that energy, use that meditative state, use that flow state that you're in and then you can work on like, hey, what is it that I want to upgrade in my life? Where is it that I want to balance? What is it that I want to reprogram? So you might give yourself suggestions. You know, one of, one of the suggestions could be around relationships. I am worthy for a healthy partnership in my life. One of them could be around money. Money comes to me very effortlessly and easily every day in my life. You know, these are all suggested programs that you can basically install within your hardware. When I'm talking about hardware, if we get into the science, what I'm talking about is your neural synapses. You can install neural positive synapses in your brain that create new memory formations.

This is like really important information that you're talking about because I think that people try to program themselves in beta state and it doesn't. And it doesn't work.

Doesn't work.

Like you can say all of the freaking affirmations that you want while you're rushing to get ready for work and you're not doing anything right.

Exactly.

This is like really important information that I think everyone needs to know that it is only in your flow state that you can bring in and program the amazing affirmations that you can that can actually take hold and start to help you, your energy level up to where you want to be. This is like groundbreaking. This is amazing.

Exactly. Yeah, exactly. And the reason is because you're mainly I mean, you're 100% in your conscious brain. You can't program in your conscious brain. Your conscious brain is for manifesting, it's for directing and for actually bringing to life what's going on in your subconscious. So another way that we can look at it for our spiritual folks is your subconscious is the feminine energy and your conscious is the. Is the masculine energy. So we might want to. For the, for the feminine energy, we're cultivating the garden. We're receiving, we're harvesting, we're doing all these things. And for the masculine part, that's where we're using the tools to actually plow and plant the seeds and, you know, push forward. So if my subconscious ain't right, then what's going to come out of my. My consciousness ain't gonna be right either.

Right.

That's why we always need to start with the subconscious and making sure that our garden is clean, their garden is clear, and that our garden is very healthy so that we can cultivate positive thoughts, positive feelings and positive actions. And going back to exactly what you said, which was we can't program in the conscious because that's just the tool. Just like we can't plant a tool, we can't plant a garden hose or, you know, the water holes or anything like that. But we can plant the seeds in the garden. And the only place that we can plant is in our subconscious. And that's where things fertilize and that's where things grow. So the only way to get into that is we start in the alpha state, then we go into the theta state, then we go into the delta state, you know, et cetera. But really the starting place for any fertilization, any installing or programming is Alpha. You can access those different levels and within each level is different information. And with different information, it's just more powerful. So we teach. You know, I just kept it really simple. Obviously there's, you know, different techniques to get into Alpha. But the impetus of everything that I've been saying is really just relaxation.

I love it. I love this. This has been so beneficial, so informative. This is why you all, if you are ready to rock and roll with him, you need to connect with him after this podcast because this is a game changer for sure. Okay, Mike, I wanna switch gears now. Cause you're my first male guest. First of all, congratulations. I know you feel so honored. I am. But I wanna pick your brain a little bit because I think that a lot of my listeners wanna kind of get an understanding of your Journey a bit. Right. Like so when you were single, he's not single anymore, ladies. Because I think that there's like single and looking for a relationship and single single.

So I guess my better question is what made you go from single single to single looking for a relationship? What were those things in your life that changed whether it was mentally, physically, emotionally, externally to get you to that switch? Why am I asking this? I'm asking this because I know for sure that there are a lot of times where if men are not self actualized, it's going to be very hard for them to be looking for a true relationship and partnership where there is going to be energy shared that there is going to be an outlook for this part of their life in a more serious level. So talk to me about your transition and if that was the case for you.

I mean there was two different realities that I was living in. There was the unconscious single looking for a relationship and there was the conscious single. I am looking for the relationship within myself. So the unconscious single me was looking for the one I was looking for the one. I wanted her to be beautiful, I wanted her to be educated. I was looking for all these different things, but I wasn't conscious of who I was first. So I was looking for my partner unconsciously to fulfill and to fill gaps within me that I didn't have within myself.

That is exactly right.

So that was, that was unconscious Michael. Right. So conscious Michael, going into. Okay, yeah. You know, the doctor tells me that, you know, I'm living a life of stress, this and that I've changed my life. You know, I started doing meditation, yoga, blah blah, the self actualized, divine, masculine. So when I came into that, what I started looking for is someone who can upgrade the quality of my life or improve the quality of my life. But the only way that I could achieve that is by me improving the quality of my own life. So I went from looking for a relationship to looking for a relationship within myself. And once I look for a relationship within myself, then I really, I did, I promise you I didn't want a relationship. I did, I didn't need a relationship. I wasn't, I wasn't on the market for a relationship. And then that's when it happened.

So what is, what is, what is, you know, looking for a relationship with myself? What does that look like? What things were done? What actions and behaviors did you take to make that happen?

The age old adage is know thyself. I really needed to understand who I was and what I wanted. And you know what my purpose was in this world. I needed to understand what my triggers were. I needed to understand what my greatest fears were, what my limiting beliefs were, and I needed to understand my strengths. What was it that I was bringing to the table? You know, what is it that I wanted to do? Who was I independent of a relationship? Because when you enter into a relationship, a lot of people say that you meld into one, and I don't believe that's true. I believe that you're two people.