A short YouTube coaching clip (Anwar White) advising women how to meet men in real life. The speaker frames the advice in a post-MeToo and pandemic-aware context, then recommends three simple openers—compliment, ask for a recommendation, or ask for help—observe a man's feet direction as a body-language cue (feet pointing toward you implies interest), and regularly attend events tied to personal passions (e.g., weekly charity work) so men see you in a natural, high-energy context.
Questions this video answers
Compliment; ask for a recommendation; ask for help.
If a man's feet are pointing in your direction, he is likely into you.
Go to events (e.g., charity work) regularly — suggested example: every week.
He states many men are rejected about 90% of the time.
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Hey, girl. I get a lot of questions about how to meet a guy in real life. That the apps aren't working for them. They're tired of the app. So I just want to meet guys in real life. I want to talk about what I tell my dating clients as a top dating coach in terms of how to meet guys in real life.
Before I go into that, though, I want to just offer to you that men are not approaching women in the same way that they had in the past. We're in a post me too environment. And so a lot of men are not going to be approaching you because they don't want to be considered a harasser or a perv. We're also depending on who you're talking to, either in a pandemic or just got out of a pandemic. So men are just going to be more respectful of general space in general. So what can we do to actually meet guys in real life? I want to empower you to actually what I call open up the space when we're living our lives. Right. What does that mean? It means that I want you to start the conversation and see how he finishes it. So there are three ways that I want you to do this. I want you to either start with a compliment, I want you to ask for a recommendation, or I want you to ask for help. Right. Compliment. Hey, that's a really nice shirt. Where did you get it from? Asking for help? Hey, can you get that can of soup in the grocery store for me? I can't reach it. Recommendation. Hey, what do you usually get here at Starbucks? Yeah, that is the way to open up the space and start the conversation. Then we just see how he continues the conversation and let him go from there. And then maybe naturally it will happen, maybe not. I know a lot of you are like, I don't want to do that. I don't want to be rejected. Well, one, welcome to the life of many men out there that are rejected 90% of the time. Two, one way that I want you to kind of minimize the risk of rejection is by looking at a man's feet. If his feet are in your direction, then you know that he is into you. How do I know this? Well, one, it's body language 101. But two, this is what I learned as a gay man, figuring out which guys were into me and which guys weren't, whether they present it as straight or not. Yeah. Anyway, I hope that helps. This is how I want you to date in real life. The other thing that I want to offer to you is I want you to regularly go to specific events that are your passion and your hobbies. So if you love charity work, go to charity work every week. This will give a guy time to actually come up to you to get to know you, and he will see you in your best light because this is something that you're passionate about and you will be at your highest form. I hope this is helpful.
