A short YouTube monologue offering dating advice directed at trans women (speaker identifies as trans, in Philadelphia). The speaker warns against partners who try to "hide" them—encourages public dates in central locations, avoiding private/dark venues, and testing willingness for public displays of affection (PDA) by the second or third date as a measure of acceptance and safety.
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Purge says I'm a trans trying to date in Philly. Any advice, suggestions? So here's the advice that I would have for anyone who has and will experience guys that may try to hide them. Now, you know, I'm going to keep it real with you. All right? So sometimes they will try to hide curvier women, trans women, darker skinned women. Don't let them hide you. Never go to their house. Never go. Do you remember that Sex in the City episode where Carrie, that guy was taking Carrie to, like, you know, the dark restaurants where they can't be seen. Don't go to the dark restaurants, girl. Don't go. And, you know, sometimes they'll be like, oh, let's go outside of the town to have a date. Don't do that, girl. You're going to have your dates in the center of town. And on the second and third date, you want to. You want to see if there's going to be some pda, hand holding, hugging, kissing. You got to see if he can handle it or not. Yeah, a lot of these guys can't. They want to hide you like a doll in the closet, girl.
You are a doll, girl. But you can't be stuck in the closet, sweetie. Okay, so that's, that's the advice that I have, right? Always public and PDA on the second or third date and see how he works that. Yeah.