A multi-speaker conversational piece comparing dating to applying to college. Speakers advise listeners to build a roster of potential partners by targeting "reach," "target," and "safety" prospects (analogized to reach/target/safety schools) rather than only pursuing highly selective "Harvard/Stanford" types. The speakers argue that safety/target partners often improve over time, and that actively filling a roster increases confidence and dating success.
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Here's the thing about dating.
I always think, like, dating is like, college.
Yeah. And most of you all are applying.
To Harvard and Stanford and have a rejection kink and getting mad that Harvard.
And Stanford aren't accepting you. And like the best college counselors, they.
Say you want reach schools, you want.
Target schools, and you want safety schools.
So the, the way that I want.
You to think about getting a roster is you need to be. You need to be obviously going for.
Those reach schools, those reach guys, the.
Guys that you're like, oh, my God.
He would be perfect for me. This is what I dreamed of.
And then you need to go for.
Your target guys, the guys that you.
Have a good chance of getting with.
That, like, this guy's on my level.
And you're going to have to be.
Very honest with yourself.
And then you're going to have to have some safety guys.
Some guys that are around you might.
Not be feeling totally, but he's doing everything for you. He's planning dates. He's bringing you roses and flower and chocolates, and he's available for you.
This is how you need to round out and get your medalists. Because you know what, the target and.
The safety schools, they don't stay at silver or bronze.
They often go to gold and silver.
But a lot of you all are.
Just trying to go for Harvard and.
Stanford and Princeton and Yale and Penn and MIT, and you're, like, really upset because they have a 6% acceptance rate.
Or a 3% acceptance rate.
It's a rejection kink. This is why dating is really hard for many of us. Okay.
So.
Let'S apply.
Well.
And I know that when you.
Do this, you'll fill up your roster.
Really.
And I know that when you have.
Action and you're active in your dating.
Life, it's going to give you a whole new level of confidence.
Many of you all don't have confidence because you don't.
You feel like you haven't done in a while.
You don't know what to do, and that you feel like there's nobody out there for you. There are. You're just not allowing it. There are a lot of guys out there, actually.
Okay.
So that would be my recommendation for many of you all.
