A dating coach tells a client to stop feeling guilty about dating multiple men at once. She argues the guilt comes from patriarchal double standards that let men date around but shame women for doing the same.
One of my clients told me yesterday that she felt guilty about dating multiple men. Now, she hadn't really dated multiple men before. This is what I encourage all of my clients to do. And these are really great guys. And she feels really guilty about it. And I told her, girl, cut, cut, cut. We cannot do that. We cannot feel guilty. If we're feeling guilty, it means that we're putting responsibility on ourselves and on these guys as if we were in a relationship and we're not, number one. Number two, this is about the patriarchy, right? That tells women that you can only focus on one guy. And if you don't focus on one guy, you're a whore, right? These men have been dating multiple people forever. You get to do it, too. If you're focused and feeling guilty about this, realize that you're actually prioritizing these guys, feeling above your own. And that is a no, no. It's all about you and figuring out what you want and what you need and who's going to be best for you. So date multiple men.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
