This YouTube monologue (Anwar White, Jan 30, 2024) answers whether to stop dating someone who seems boring. The speaker argues boredom is co-created — if dates feel dull, the listener should self-reflect and be more engaging ("talk your shit"). Advice includes steering conversations toward topics you enjoy, entertaining yourself on dates, and recognizing that "boring" is subjective (illustrated by a client who felt a partner was boring for not complimenting her).
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Should I stop dating someone because they're boring? Here's what I want to let you know about boring. It takes two parties to be boring. So if someone is boring, then you might also be boring. If you are not engaging with people where you're having a good time, wherever you go, with whomever you're with, it means that you got to step up your game, girl. You should be entertaining yourself, right? Talking. It means you're not talking your shit. You're letting these guys lead the conversation. And because they're not leading it, well, you're over it, girl. You should be talking your shit. Don't be that girl who wants to talk about Will and Jada, but then the guy wants to talk about, you know, Hamas and Israel. No, girl, talk about what you want to talk about. And have fun on these dates.
Yeah. Look, if it's not a match, it's not a match. But I always think that there's something to learn about how we engage in our dating life. It's hard for me to tell because it's hard for me to get an understanding of what is boring to you and what is not. I have a client who. Who says that, too. But that's because she was leading with her sexuality. And because he wasn't complimenting her on her body, he was boring to her. Or because he wasn't the highest thing alive, he was boring to her. So it's hard for me to answer that directly because I don't know what boring means to you and what that looks like.
