Anwar White proposes the "Columbus Day Challenge" for single Black women: date two white men or partners of other races to broaden dating experiences and challenge racialized attraction patterns. He frames it as an experiment to confront trauma-driven preferences.
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Hey, girl, if you are a single black woman, I'm gonna need you to stay here and listen. And what I'm gonna say is gonna be a little bit controversial. But, girl, I do what I want to do because I'm grown. So, ladies, I want you to do this challenge with me on Columbus Day or Canadian Thanksgiving, whatever you celebrate, I'm going to need you to colonize the colonizer. I have a Columbus Day challenge for you this week. This week, I'm going to need you to date two white men. I don't care. I don't care. This is how we colonize the white men, honey, at the end of the day. So this is what you're going to do. You're going to talk to the guys on the apps. When you're out and about and those white guys and their feet are pointing towards you, you're going to talk to them, you're going to get their numbers, and you're going to go out on a date with them. And, girl, I don't really care if the black men are going to be in my DMs trying to kill me. That's what happens all the time. They're going to tell me I'm killing the black race. We get to have fun. We get to date whoever we want. Because at the end of the day, what happens is you date more people, you will get more experiences, you will heal more, and you will learn more about yourself. But here's the thing, and I hear what you all are about to say. Oh, I'm not attracted to them. All of that. Here's what I want to offer to you. If you were born in China, you would just be attracted to Chinese men. But you were brought up around black people, so you are attracted to black people more. And also, the media doesn't show you different ways of being in relationships with other people when you are hyper focused on a certain race. Oftentimes this is based on trauma. This is based on you trying to actually rewrite history and chase your father's love. This is what we call trauma driven attraction. And this concept is so ingrained in us. If you were ever in school and you had a bully, sometimes an inkling of you might be attracted to that bully. Now, I know it sounds crazy, but it's true. This is why many of us are attracted to black men. I mean, yes, they are sexy, but also there might be trauma involved. So give these white guys a chance on your Columbus Day challenge. Yes, girl. Date two of them. We're going two by two. Like Noah's Ark. So in the comments, let me know if you accept this Columbus Day Challenge or not.
