A short YouTube monologue (June 2025) in which the speaker explains why non-black men often don't approach black women and gives practical advice for black women to initiate conversations. The speaker argues men fear rejection—citing that roughly 90–95% of black women’s marriages are with black men—recommends observing feet orientation as a sign of interest, and suggests opening the space by offering a compliment, asking for help, or requesting a recommendation.
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Roughly 90–95%.
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Hey, girl. So I just did a video about the top five white guys that are checking for black women. And this comment was the comment that I got so often, which was, they never approach me. This is the reason why non black men don't approach you. They don't approach you because they think that your eyes are just for black men. And they're not wrong. Roughly 90 to 95% of current marriages from black women are with black men. So men are very sensitive and they don't want to be rejected because literally their dating experience is 90% rejection. So here's what I want to offer to you. This is one of the reasons why they're not approaching you. It's not because they're not checking for you. It's because they don't want to be rejected by you and they're intimidated. I want you to look at the feet. The feet will tell you everything, girl. If the feet are pointing toward you, it means that they're into you and that they're liking you. And guess what that means? It means that you're going to have to what I call open the space. And that means start a conversation. And the best way that I think that you can do that is three ways. Either you can give the guy a compliment, you can ask for help, or you can ask for a recommendation. You have to start the conversation and see how he drives it. You will have to open the space with non black men to start conversations with them. And looking at their feet is the best way to do this. I hope this helps.