Anwar White says stop asking men what they're looking for. Men are present-minded and often dishonest about their intentions. Instead, clarify your own boyfriend requirements and evaluate men by their actions, not their words.
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Hey, girl, I don't know who needs to hear this, but I'm gonna need you to stop asking men what they're looking for if you don't know me. My name is Anwar White. I'm a dating coach for smart and successful black and brown women. And the reason why I say this is because men don't know what they're looking for. It's not like they have a list in terms of how they evaluate women. And at the end of the day, men are very present minded, which means that they're only focused on right here, right now. Am I having a good time? They're not thinking about this person's going to be my wife. The other thing is they will lie in your face. And y' all know this. They will lie in your face because they want to just hook up with you and have a good time for that night. This is why we cannot trust their actual words. We have to trust their actions. At the end of the day, what I know for sure is that it doesn't matter what they're looking for. It matters what you're looking for. And if you are focused on what they're looking for, you're censoring them and you're doing dating completely wrong. You've got to figure out what you're looking for so that you can evaluate them accurately in terms of if they are fulfilling your actual boyfriend requirements and your list. And if you don't know what your list is, I want to give you a head start. The things that you didn't receive from your parents are the deep relationship needs that you have and the deep relationship needs that they are going to need to fulfill if they're going to be a great boyfriend, partner and potential husband for you. If you need help with this evaluation, if you need help understanding what those things are, book a call with me. I'd love to help you. I hope this does help, though.
