Anwar White, a dating coach for Black and Brown women, delivers a short YouTube advice clip urging women to stop "dating on the DL" — i.e., hiding their dating lives from close family and friends. He frames disclosure as a protection mechanism against toxic or isolating partners and as an aspect of maturing from an "inner child" mindset to a grown-woman status. He offers sample language to disclose dating status to a mother and closes with a call to action about his VIP Mastermind program (enrollment open).
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Hey, girl, I don't know who needs to hear this, but I'm gonna need you to stop dating on the DL and no, I'm not talking about dating DL man. Girl. Lord knows we've known a bit about that. But what I am talking about is not telling your friends and your family, especially your mother, about your dating life. My name is Anwar. I'm a dating coach for black and brown women, and I help them get into the best relationship of their lives. What I know for sure is that most black and brown women are not actually talking about their dating lives with close people that are in their lives. And it's dangerous. Having people know about your dating life can protect you, especially from toxic and narcissistic guys who want to isolate you so that they can control you. So please understand that when you tell other people, it's a protection mechanism for yourself. Secondly, I know that this is coming from your little girl self, your inner child, and not from your grown woman status. So with all due respect and love, part of this is about growing up and getting out of your teenage daughter mentality. You're a grown woman. Your mom's a grown woman. You get to tell her about what's happening in your life. What I know is we're often scared because so many of our moms are critical and judgmental, and we don't want to go through all of the questions that they're going to ask us. This is just a reminder. You're not dating for your mom. You're dating for you. And you will have a different relationship, relationship and type than your mother will. So when you tell her, and I want you to, in your grown woman status, you get to tell her like this. I want to give you some language that you can practice it. Hey, I want to tell you a little bit about my dating life just so that you know what's going on in my life. I'm not ready to answer a lot of questions right now, but I want to just share that with you so you know what's going on with me, right? So that protects you from all of the questions that you think will come about when you when this happens. I hope this helps. Let me know if it does. And please know that if you want help with this, you can definitely reach out to me. My VIP Mastermind program is open for enrollment right now, so book a call if that's something that you're interested in. Hope this helps.
