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Talk About Ya Mama

Name: Talk About Ya Mama
Uploaded: 2025-12-07T18:45:36.658274
Duration: 59 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short spoken-piece (YouTube/TikTok-style) by Anwar White addressing how maternal narcissism—especially among Black and Brown women raised in the…

7 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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Short spoken-piece (YouTube/TikTok-style) by Anwar White addressing how maternal narcissism—especially among Black and Brown women raised in the 1960s–80s—stems from intergenerational trauma and unmet needs, and how daughters may unconsciously choose narcissistic partners because that model of love feels familiar. The speaker frames the critique as meant to help listeners improve their love lives rather than to shame mothers.

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Hey, girl, I want to talk to you about your mama. Yeah, I'm going to talk about your mama because I'm pretty sure that she's actually a narcissist. Especially if you're a black and a brown woman. And I say this because. And just let's talk about it. Narcissism is based on trauma, unfulfilled needs. And if we think about our moms growing up in the 60s, 70s and 80s as women of color, nobody was there for them. So of course they're gonna have some narcissism and involved in how they are operating in their lives. But this TikTok is not about them. It's about you. And you are love life and why you think that you're attracting narcissists. No, you're choosing them because that definition of love feels familiar to you. The criticism that telling you what to do in the bossiness, that's not healthy, but it feels okay. So the red flags don't come up for you. When that happens in your love life, we gotta do it a different way. It's not healthy. And yes, I came for your mom, but because I want you to actually thrive in love, I hope this helps.