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Tamara's Love Journey Pt 7

Name: Tamara's Love Journey Pt 7
Uploaded: 2022-08-18T12:23:57+00:00
Duration: 1 min 31 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Tamara (speaker) describes meeting her partner on the dating app Plenty of Fish while she was simultaneously using three dating apps. She explains…

18 Aug 2022 · 2 min

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Tamara (speaker) describes meeting her partner on the dating app Plenty of Fish while she was simultaneously using three dating apps. She explains feeling overwhelmed by the volume of low-quality messages (receiving at least ~50 messages/day), which led her to decide to delete the app and stop responding to most messages. The clip focuses on her decision-making process and emotional response to online dating fatigue.

Questions this video answers

On the dating app Plenty of Fish.

Three apps.

At least 50 messages per day.

She decided to delete it (stopped using it).

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Let's talk about how you got your guy. I actually met him on Plenty of Fish, which is funny, because out of. Towards the end, before me and him became official, I was on three apps. And so out of all three of the apps, I never thought I was going to find a person on Plenty of Fish, because I. Because I think one of the other things I struggled with was.
Talking. So, like, when I have an idea, I don't talk to other people about it. I just kind of just do it. And so. So, like, when I was like, I'm done with plenty of Fish, but I haven't talked to you about why I was done with it, I just was like, I'm done. I'm just gonna delete it. I don't want to do this no more. And you were like, no. Like, why wouldn't you talk to me about that? And it was just like, I just. Because at that point, I got overwhelmed with it, and I wasn't getting much quality, and it was just like, I just don't have the energy for these people. Which then meant lean into the funnel even more, because if they weren't meeting expectation, it's real easy to X them out and move on, you know? And then I had also gotten to this point where I was trying to respond to everybody.
And plenty of Fish was giving me at least 50 messages a day at one point.
Who has time to respond to 50 messages in a day? Right? And I legit was trying. And so, of course I get overwhelmed and don't want to respond to people.
And I stopped doing that.
People would be lucky if they got me once a day.