Short conversational guide describing six different "energies" relevant to dating and relationships: hyper feminine, hyper masculine (both tied to instant gratification/materialism), narcissistic (combination of the two hyper energies), healthy feminine (radical unconditional acceptance), healthy masculine (inspired action through service), and holistic energy (a balanced combination of healthy masculine and feminine). Emphasizes that people—particularly women of color—may habitually occupy certain energies and advocates for developing both healthy masculine and feminine aspects to create balanced partnerships.
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Hey, girl. So I want to spill some dating tea because I know a lot of people out there are talking about masculine and feminine energy, but, girl, I want to let you know there's not just masculine and feminine energy. There's many more energies. There's actually six. And I'm going to highlight them right now. Girl, you've come to my page because, you know I'm going to give you the AP and not the one on one like many of these other dating coaches out there. No shade. But anyway, so first I want to talk about hyper feminine energy and hyper masculine energy. The hyper feminine and masculine energy are really based on instant gratification and materialism. And also when we're focused on the hyper feminine energy, it's also focused on social validation and also being perfect, right? The hyper masculine energy is all about power, right? And so those are the two hyper energies, hyper femme and hyper masc. Narcissistic energy is the combination of hyper feminine energy and hyper masculine energy. That's the third energy. The fourth energy is about healthy feminine energy, which is all about radical and unconditional acceptance. Healthy masculine energy is inspired action through service. Many of our mothers, especially if you're a woman of color, we're in their healthy masculine energy, right? And then the actual energy that I want all of us to strive for is what I call holistic energy. And that is a combination of both health healthy masculine energy and healthy feminine energy. And the reason why I say that is because when you're in a relationship, guess what? You're not going to be in one versus the other. All of us have both energies. And when you're in a partnership in a relationship, it's about what's best for the team. You might have an authority in one thing that your partner doesn't have an authority in. In that opportunity, you would be in your masculine energy for that instance, right? Whereas maybe there are things that he does much better at that point, you would be in your feminine energy. So you actually have to be really healthy in both areas. So often women of color, black and brown women, are in their masculine energy. So when you hear me talk about getting into your feminine energy, it's not because I want you to just be in your feminine energy. I want you to be in your holistic energy so that you're leveled up in your masculine energy and in your feminine energy so that when you do get into an amazing relationship, it will thrive. These other people that are talking about, oh, girl, just be in your feminine energy thinking that that's all you have to do in a relationship in 2023 is deeply flawed. That's 1960s thinking. These men out here and some of your favorite dating coaches out there, male dating coaches, will talk about submission. That's hyper masculine energy and you want to run away from that asap. If you're interested in learning more where I go into detail of all of these different energies, definitely check out my podcast. It's in my Prof. Also, let me know in the comments. What energy are you in.
