A short spoken piece (YouTube video) by Anwar White offering dating advice to women: avoid idealizing partners based on first impressions or 'ratings' (giving someone a 9 or 10) and instead evaluate men by their actions and, most importantly, how they treat you. The speaker frames this shift as a way to prevent heartache and mental drama.
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Hello, my loves. I hope you're doing well today. I wanted to come on here and talk about one of the biggest mistakes I see so many women make in their dating and their love lives. And if you can get this right, you will save yourself so much heartache and mental drama. Now, most of the time what we do is when we meet someone, we give them a ranking in our head and if we like them, we give them a 9 or 10. And when we give them a 9 or 10, there is nothing that they can do wrong. Right? Because that 9 and 10 is like sketched in stone and that's it. Right. And one of the things that I want us to do as we are evaluating men is to actually evaluate him based on what he is doing, how he is showing up, but most importantly how he is treating you. Because a guy that is a 9 or a 10 can treat you like shit and actually be a fucking for, but you're not actually doing that because you like him. So I want you to prioritize how he treats you versus how.