Anwar White (dating coach for Black and brown women, 13 years' experience) presents a ranked list of the top five U.S. cities he considers most challenging for Black women to date: #5 Phoenix, #4 Miami, #3 Los Angeles, #2 Houston, #1 Atlanta. He gives brief, anecdotal reasons for each city (racial/ethnic preferences, lack of Black middle class, geographic sprawl, transient populations, gender imbalance in Atlanta). He also lists several honorable-mention cities and ends with a call-to-action to book coaching.
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Now, girl, why did Fox News come up in here talking about how Atlanta is the fourth best city for singles to date in the lies, the lies, the lies. It's not true. Girl. My name is Anwar White. I'm a dating coach for black and brown women. And I've been doing this work for 13 years. So I'm going to give you the top five cities that are the most challenging cities to date in as a black woman. Yeah. So let's get into it. Number five, Phoenix. Girl, here's the thing. The black guys are not checking for the black women in Phoenix. They're checking for the white girls. They're checking for the Latina girls. They're even going on the reservation and checking for the native girls. Girl. So they're not checking for you, which makes it really hard. And then everybody else wants to keep with their own kind, so they're not really checking for you. So that's why Phoenix is really difficult. Number four, Miami. Girl. Miami is also quite racist. You know, there's a ton of Cubans and Cubans. They'll party with you girls, but they just won't take you home. Also, there's no middle class there. Right. There's no black middle class in Florida really, but Miami specifically. And also there's a ton of Haitians. And what the girls are telling me is that the Haitians are crazy. I'm not saying this, this is what I'm hearing. Let me know in the comments what your experiences are. Yeah. Number three, LA girl, very Eurocentric. And it doesn't feel like it's racist, but it totally is. And most of those black guys are talking to a lot of Latina girls and the lighter skinned girls. And also because it's so spread out, it's hard to actually find people and drive to them because, girl, you might be, you know, 10 miles away, but it takes you an hour to get to somebody because it's just that hard. Okay, so that's number three. Number two, Houston girl. Again, there's no black middle class in Houston or what I call love class. And you got a lot of engineers, you got a lot of doctors, and then you have people that are minimum wage. So it makes it really hard to date there. Also, from what the girls tell me, there's a lot of Nigerians there and they've had really negative experiences from Nigerians. I don't have a problem with Nigerians, but let me know in the comments what your experience have been with Nigerians. Also, they're overestimating themselves. These are often the guys that couldn't cut it in Atlanta, so they come to Houston, they think they're a 9 or 10 in Houston, but in reality they're in Atlanta 6 or 7. So that's Houston number one. Which is why that former, that article that was put out was a lie is because Atlanta is the most challenging city to date in for black woman. Why? There's a gender disparity, what I call the black sex gender operating ratio. What does this mean? It means that for every one well to do black guy that's ready for a relationship, there are six to seven black women that are really chasing after him. So he has meant black men have the power in Atlanta and they will treat black women horribly because they can. And also they are not settling down until later on in life after 35, 40 for the most part. Right. Because they can. They have all of the power. And so this is why women in Atlanta have such a hard time dating now. Honorable mention, Boston racist. No black wealth. Other parts of California, like the Bay Area or San Diego, it's the the same with la. Other parts of Texas, like Dallas and Austin, it's the what I said for Houston, it represents itself in those cities as well. Las Vegas, horrible to date in. You know, lots of transient people coming in and out, so it's hard to settle. And also it's quite Republican. Finally, Denver. Denver is like living in the movie get out girl. It seems nice, but it's scary and no one's really checking for you. I hope this is helpful for you as you navigate your dating life. If you need help dating in these cities, definitely book a call with me so I can help you get your guy in the next year.
