A short YouTube monologue advising Black women (particularly those with higher education) to use a deliberate dating strategy rather than relying on pickiness or trauma responses. The speaker presents a programized, stepwise approach—claiming it increases relationship outcomes—and interacts with a live/chat audience about strategy and healing work done alongside dating coaching.
Chapters
Tips for black women with degrees in higher ed. I'm super picky, but they are not checking for me at all. Stop being picky. Your. Your pickiness is a, like, it's like a overcompensation to, like, protect yourself. It's a defense mechanism.
Because. Well, here's what I will tell you. In my program, I. I teach all of my clients my proprietary strategy so that they don't need to. You don't need to be picky. You just need to work my strategy. And the guys that get out of it, you engage with them, but most of the guys will fall off. So one of the things I think is very important is.
Dating with strategy.
If you have a strategy, like, while you're dating.
Kudos. If you don't have a strategy, give me a hashtag nostrategy in the chat, I want to know who doesn't have a strategy.
A framework, a guideline. From getting from the first conversation to the first date. From the first date to commitment and exclusivity. Oh, I'm seeing a lot of no strategies, girl. Y' all making my eyes cross.
Oh, my gosh. It's too much. It's too much.
Would you ever not have a strategy while you're at work?
No. You would get fired. Being picky is not a strategy. Being picky is a trauma response.
Yeah.
Oh, my God. There's so much no strategy. Y' all are driving blindfolded.
Girl, no shade. I. I drive everywhere with my ways. Just in case y' all are not driving with ways and y' all are getting stuck in traffic.
Yeah.
They said, hope your book will touch on dating strategies. It sure will. It's all about strategies. It's about how to date with strategies. Someone said, I use Google Maps, girl. Go back to 2007, girl. No shade.
Yeah, honey. I ways. I ways to my mama's house.
I don't know.
So we need to get strategy.
We need to know this step by step. Because when you don't have strategy, what happens is you will give away and abdicate your power to these men. And these men don't know what the hell they're doing, their lives, and especially with your power.
When you have a strategy, you will be more confident in dating. When you have a strategy, you will know what is inbound and what is outbounds based on your rubric, not his.
Yeah. Someone said, give us a quick three step. That's what I do on my program, girl. That's what I do in my program. That's why we get three to five women into relationships per week because they work the strategy. And while they're working the strategy, we work on the healing.
