A short YouTube monologue by dating coach Anwar White advising women to "date for growth" rather than from desperation aimed at marriage. The coach warns that women (often aged 35–40) may overlook red flags when focused on milestones, notes cultural reluctance in Black and Brown communities to speak up, and urges friends to give honest feedback — citing a statistic that friends/family predict relationship outcomes with 92% accuracy versus 63% for the individuals themselves.
Questions this video answers
Friends and family: 92% accuracy; the individual: 63% accuracy.
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We were just kids when we fell in love. Hey girl. Seeing things like this breaks my heart. And I know that this girl in the video was focused on dating for marriage. And as a dating coach, I want you all to actually date for growth. Growing yourself, making sure that you are the woman that is going to be able to get into the best relationship of her life. Because when you date from a place of desperation and what will happen is, and this happens for so many women that I work with, especially between the ages of 35 and 40, you will often overlook the red flags because you're so focused on getting married and hitting that milestone. But doesn't matter who's in it. And most of the time the guys are not good matches. I will say, yeah. Second thing that I want to say really quickly, half the people in that church know that he is not the one. But. And this is especially true for the black and brown communities, we won't say anything. Girl, if you like it, I love it. Don't be that girl. Be the friend that is willing to sacrifice a relationship for the best of her friend. Which means that you get to tell her, hey girl, I'm getting vibes. I'm getting an intuition here that he might not be the one. I wanted to share that with you. Why? Because, girl, if you were in that situation, you would want somebody to say that to you. And research says that the people around you, your friends and family, will be able to accurately predict the result of your relationship and an accuracy rate of 92% versus yourself, which will only be able to predict it at a 63% correction rate. So we have to be able to tell the truth because your girl might have blind spots or you might have blind spots. Let me know in the comments. Do you have a friend that is in a really shitty relationship and have you told her? I hope this helps.
