A brief YouTube monologue by Anwar White arguing that asking vetting questions of men is ineffective because men can easily say what you want to hear. The speaker advises observing actions rather than words, and cultivating boundaries, vulnerability, and feminine energy to better assess men; she warns against being swayed by 'swag' or smooth talk.
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Someone said vetting questions.
So, number one.
The questions that you ask these men don't matter.
Just like when you're in an interview and you ask certain questions to a candidate, they can say whatever they want to to get the job.
And these men will do the exact same thing. And I think that there are a lot of women out there that think, oh, my gosh, if I ask him this and this and this and this, I'm gonna stump him and I'm gonna get him. As if you were at the end of an SVU episode trying to make him plead guilty on the stand.
That's not what it's going.
To.
So it requires different ways of being.
It requires things like boundaries, like vulnerability.
Feminine energy.
To actually create the space to be in observation mode of these men. Not what they say.
But in what they do and how they do it.
Girl, I. Girl, I could say I want to be with you, but I'm gay as hell. Doesn't mean a damn thing. Don't be swayed by what these men say.
Because they'll say anything. And especially if they don't have anything going for themselves, their swag is going to be on another level.
Swag is a poor man's game.
Being a lothario, being quick with your words, smooth with your words.
That'S what poor men do to compensate for the fact that they don't have anything.
