A dating coach (Anwar White) argues that "good morning" texts from men usually mean little because they are often mass-sent to multiple women. She recommends prioritizing two signals: (1) a man who reaches out after work (shows you are the person he wants to share his day with) and (2) a man who calls every night (strong indicator of a relationship-forming pattern). She also advises women to adopt "batching" communication—messaging multiple prospective partners at set intervals—to manage dating multiple people and avoid overwhelm. The clip uses retail-spam analogies to reframe morning texts as low-value.
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Hey, girl, this is totally true. Guys that send you a morning text, it doesn't mean anything. And they're sending at least five to eight other women the same morning text. And I know that so many of us are like, it means that he's thinking about me and I'm the first thing that he thinks about when he wakes up. It's not he's checking a box. The way that I want you to think about this is I want you to prioritize two things. One, if he reaches out to you after work, because that means that you are the first person that he wants to talk to about his day. And two, if he's calling you every night. As a dating coach that has been doing this work for 13 years, I know that a woman is about to get into an amazing relationship when the guy is calling her every evening. So moving forward, I want you to think about these good morning texts, like the spam that you get from Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body Works, Ulta Sephora. And think of these messages as a 20% off of your next purchase. It doesn't mean anything. And girl, just put it in the spam. Alright, I hope this helps.
Also, don't get mad at these guys for what I call batching communication. Learn from them. So many women are telling me, oh, I can't deal with talking to two or three or five guys. No, girl, do what these guys are doing. Talk to the guys at the same time every three to four hours. Message them all at the same time so that you don't get overwhelmed because you're supposed to be dating as many people as possible and seeing who wins. But you got to learn how to manage them and this is a great way to manage them by batching communication.