A single-speaker YouTube monologue (by Anwar White) addressing "friends with benefits" relationships. The speaker argues such arrangements are unequal and exploitative for women, highlights sexual health risks (mentions herpes and HIV), and emphasizes elevated STI/HIV rates among Black women as a rationale for caution.
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Let's break it down. A man that is having sex with you and doesn't want to commit with you is not your friend. He's using you.
Let's talk about the benefits. The benefits is are that you're getting touched. That's about it. But he's getting off. And let's be honest, you're probably getting off 30 to 40% of the time.
That doesn't seem fair for me.
So it's not equal. And you're being used.
So it's more like a. An enemy with co pays.
Because here's the thing. If a man wants to be a friends with benefits with you.
I want to offer to you that he's probably promiscuous, which means that there is probably more danger in your bed when you.
Benefit from him.
The benefit might be herpes.
And this is not me being approved. Because if you know me, you know I like to get it in. Girl, I've been around the world tonight.
But I know that.
The herpes rate for black women is almost double the rate of other women.
That's not a coincidence.
Last week I went through a whole. I said. And I had to do the research. I had to go through the whole, I need to know what the hell was happening with these STIs. HIV rates for black women. Said, this shit is dangerous.
This is crazy.
Honey, these men are not your friend.
Right? Dun dun. Give me that SVU bell, honey. Because that's what they're giving honey.
Predator tea.
Mm.
Yeah. The gongon, the sith girl. Don't be in Houston.
