A speaker reflects on why some people prefer dating Black men, framing it as both personal preference and socially conditioned. The talk links this preference to attempts to heal or rewrite 'father wounds'—absent or emotionally distant fathers and critical mothers—and suggests many hold loyalty to Black men for those reasons. The speaker also briefly notes intent to 'try them all' and encourages empathy for listeners who resonate.
Beautiful reflection set. I only like black men, but I'm going to try out, to go outside.
Try them all, see who wins. That's all I'm saying. Yeah. I think a lot of us like black men because. And I like black men as well, because I am one sometimes.
I'm saying all of this to say, if you were born in China, you would probably lack, like, Chinese men.
There is kind of a conditioning that happens as well.
Yeah.
So I want to offer that. And many of us. Many of us have a loyalty to black men because oftentimes we have felt like we needed to chase our father's love. And there's a void there. And whether we're conscious of it or not, sometimes we believe, like if we're with a black man, it will rewrite the history of our father wound. So I want to offer that to anyone who can and or will receive it.
Because most of us had mothers that were highly critical or judgmental or dads that were emotionally or physically absent.
Yeah.
So I just want to hold space for anyone who's had that experience and who resonates with any of that.