A Black woman describes what it's like dating white men: stares from strangers, racist comments, and family backlash. She says the difference is a partner who actively uses his privilege to protect her, like confronting people who stare or handling security checkpoints during travel.
Naomi said, what are the most common issues facing black women who date white men?
Good question. I think the thing about dating white men is.
It is society. It is the stares. It is. It's the micro and macro aggressions that will happen. Sometimes it's the racist space family members. So you got to be with someone that advocates for you down. Like my white partner. Girl.
If there's anyone that just is looking at him and not me, he will let them know. No, you need to look at him. He's the breadwinner. He's the decision maker, right? And if they're giving him life, if they're trying to ignore me, we leave. We don't give anybody business. You know, you want a. A white man, something that you want to look out for is, does this man.
Does this man take on some of your everyday burden as a black woman? Right? So you all know what you go through. So I don't have to go through that. But what I do think is important is does he make your life easier, right? Does he use no shade. Does he use some of his white privilege to make your life easier? So, for example, my white husband has. When we're going through border control, when we travel. Girl, girl. He has the passports, girl. He deals with his security. I don't deal with anyone that has a badge. He does.
