Anwar White advises caution when dating someone recently released from prison. Check how long they've been out (recidivism risk), get tested for STIs, and watch for psychological changes from incarceration. Avoid a savior complex and prioritize your own safety.
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Check how long it has been since release (to assess recidivism risk).
He states entering prison STI rate is 20% and after release it's in the 80th percentile.
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Someone asked, hey, Amar, would you date a previously incarcerated man who has turned his life around, gotten his bachelor lives on his own, and works in.
Career devoted to giving back?
How long has it been? Because we got to check that recidive. Recidivism rate. Girl.
Here's what I know about men that come from prison. First of all, we need to understand why they got into prison and at what age. But the thing about prison, and it's similar to the military, is that a lot of guys in prison go gay. I call them strays, straight gays, so. And some of that stays with them forever.
The other thing that you need to check is.
Any sort of STDs or STIs.
When men go to prison, the STI rate is 20%. When they leave prison, it's in the 80th percentile.
So this is important. Okay.
Yeah.
I think some of us are like, this is so lovely. I'm so glad that he's, you know.
You know, making improvements in his life, turning things around.
Here's what I want to say. Okay? I'm. I'm not going to be diplomatic about this anymore. I was trying to be cute. I'm not going to be cute about it anymore.
That man has seen things. He has had to play Survivor.
And when you get to a point, when you have to experience dehumanizing conditions, it will strip some of your humanity. When you have to experience dehumanizing conditions, it will strip some of your humanity.
And when you are with a man, that is not humane.
It can be dangerous for you.
Yeah.
Yeah. It's like Survivor.
You eating bugs.
So.
Okay, I'm gonna leave it at that.
And the reason why I'm saying this, too, is because actually, a lot of women will be attracted to men that have had a hard time in life because they. They're in a savior complex. They're in their masculine energy. Don't save a man. Don't save anyone except for yourself.
Yeah. Sometimes it can be an ego boost to say, I really helped this man. I'm giving Mother Teresa up in here. Right.
No.
You are not going to get any medals of honor. You're not going to get a Purple Heart. You're going to get a black heart because they will kill it. Okay.
