What Are You Looking For

Hey girl. So if you find yourself stumped when a guy is asking you what you're actually looking for, I want you to continue to listen because oftentimes women will be really specific in their detail and then you're giving this guy a blueprint of how to actually love you. And for toxic and narcissistic men, they will use that to get you stuck. I actually want you to be very vague and broad and just let them know that you're looking to connect with people, get to know them and hopefully that will lead to a long term relationship. It's very present minded. Why am I saying this? I'm saying this because he doesn't deserve to understand everything about you until after day three. And I know that that might sound like games, but in dating your job is to observe and to gather data. Dating is dataing, right? Once he establishes that he's consistent, dependable, emotionally available, this is when we get start to get specific about what your wants and what your needs are in a relationship. Otherwise he doesn't deserve to understand all of that. Not yet at least. I hope that helps.