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What do I think about the spark?

Name: What do I think about the spark?
Uploaded: 2024-07-01T13:04:38+00:00
Duration: 1 min 26 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short conversational YouTube segment (Anwar White) arguing that the commonly sought "spark" is primarily chemical/physical (hormones, anxiety) and fades…

1 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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Short conversational YouTube segment (Anwar White) arguing that the commonly sought "spark" is primarily chemical/physical (hormones, anxiety) and fades (speaker states ~18 months), while a preferable "slow burn" arises from intellectual and emotional connection and better predicts long-term relationship suitability. The speaker discourages trusting initial physical chemistry alone and urges dating with longer-term compatibility in mind.

Vanessa said, do you think attraction can grow? He's super thoughtful, kind, and generous. I don't feel a spark, ladies. You're not supposed to feel a spark.
The spark, girl. You want the slow burn. You want the slow burn Spark. That's chemicals.
That's.
Those are hormones. That's anxiety. That's fear talking to you. Don't trust the spark. The spark will get your deductive and critical reasoning skills in the. In the toilet, girl.
Yeah.
The reason why people are so into this spark is because it's all about physical connection. And the slow burn is about more intellectual and emotional connections, which actually are more important for a long term relationship.
Like, guess what, 30, 40 years from now, it's probably not going to be about the physical.
But you want to make sure that you're dating for a longer term relationship. A lot of people are just about how he's fine.
Girl. Those chemicals that you're feeling about how fine he is, they will fade within 18 months.
What then?
You know what I mean.
Yeah. Liera said the spark could be fight or flight or both at the same time, girl.