Anwar White advises against letting a man move into your place after a breakup. Wait 3 to 6 months, move into his place instead, or find somewhere new together. Letting him move in often casts you as a mother figure and stops him from growing up.
Christy said, what do you think if a man moves in and he just left a relationship but wants one with me? I don't think that men are ready to even date until three to six months.
I really don't think that you should. I really don't think that you should let a man move in with you. I think that you should either move in his house or you, you both should find a new home to dwell in.
If he's moving in with you, you are automatically becoming his mother.
Suddenly your house has been, has become, this is big mama's house.
You know, your grandma's house where all of the.
Let'S say people in your family are not very together and so they live with her.
That's how your house becomes. And he will never self actualize into the man that he is to be if he's always.
In your home. Mom.
Someone said, you know, my uncles.
We all know, we all know, we all know those people in our families that can't hold a job, maybe drug dependent, maybe been in and out of the big house.
That needs some time to get on their feet. And it's no judgment, by the way. I have people in my family that are like that as well. But your man should not be that person.
That's all I gotta say.
Alyssa said, second date at his place, he wants to cook. Now, we don't go to a man, we don't go to a place, we don't go to a man's house that we don't know.
One of the things that I think is very important for you to understand is every time you are dating, you are bringing three parts of you. You're bringing your grown self, you're bringing your rebellious teenage self, and you're bringing that little girl inside your little girl self.
I want you to think when a man asks you out early on in the courtship, he's also asking out my 8 year old and my 13 year old self.
Girl, that's To Catch a Predator. Tea?
Yuck.
No, ma'. Am. Stranger danger is right.
Notice that and why I feel like I don't know how to date. Girl, join my program, book a consultation call so we can teach you. I literally tonight taught, I don't know about 80 women in my program. We have.
Literally every date, we're telling you what kind of date it should be, what you should do on the date, how the conversation should be on each date, from first date to exclusivity. I'm teaching my clients how to date because guess what? I'm sure your mama didn't teach you no shade.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
