Anwar White on why relationships struggle when one partner earns much less: if you make under 80% of what your partner does, you're more likely to feel emasculated and cheat. He calls it the novelty quotient—whether you're still growing, learning, changing.
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If the partner is making less than 80% of what the other partner makes, it probably won't work.
March 11, 2024
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User 785 said, is the relationship doomed if I earn more than my partner? He's so sweet. Well, it depends how much more. Because if he is making anything less than 80% of what you're making, it probably won't work. When I say that, it's because he's gonna feel emasculated, and then he's gonna want to either try to humble you or cheat on you so that he can feel more adequate. This is what I see the majority of the time. I'm not saying all of the time. Right. But the majority of the time, that is what happens. And I'm not here to doom your relationship, but I just. I want to. I want to put you on game. Right. I don't want you six months later being like, I can't believe this mofo cheated on me. That's what they do when they feel like they don't have agency and authority, power. Right. When they feel powerless. And that was my latest video. Oftentimes they will cheat if you're bringing your masculine energy, whether you're making more. The other ways to figure out if a guy is going to cheat or not is based on what I called his novelty quotient. What does that mean? That means, is there newness in his life? Is he focused on new goals, or is he staying stagnant? Because when a man is stagnant, he's going to feel really bad about himself, and he will cheat to make himself feel good or right. Is he open to new perspectives, new ideas, new opinions? So if you're disagreeing, is he the first one to say you're wrong? Or is he like, okay, let me hear what you got to say, and then I want to share what I got to say. If he. If these guys are saying, oh, you're wrong, immediately, he not trying to. He's not trying to bring anything new into his life. So he's gonna get that inadequate feeling when things continue to be stagnant for him. Yeah.
