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What does 'butterflies in the stomach' mean?

Name: What does 'butterflies in the stomach' mean?
Uploaded: 2024-08-25T22:00:38+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Anwar White (YouTube) explains that the common 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling is a trauma- or stress-driven physiological response signaling…

25 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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Anwar White (YouTube) explains that the common 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling is a trauma- or stress-driven physiological response signaling perceived danger—not a sign of healthy attraction. He contrasts this with the calm, centered feeling he associates with healthy relationships and criticizes media (Disney, rom-coms, Hallmark) for romanticizing butterflies.

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Okay, Got it. So someone said, I need explanation on butterflies. The butterflies, it's a trauma response. It's a stress response. It's your body telling you you're not safe. It's the same feeling that you're feeling when you're about to go on stage or you're about to make a presentation in elementary school or junior high. You don't feel safe. You feel nervous, you're anxious. And what I want you to understand and know, because I get women and three to four women into relationships every week, the feeling that happens is a sense of calm and centeredness. It's not butterflies. So forget what you heard. When the Disney movies and the rom coms and the Hallmark movies are talking about butterflies, Shit is for the birds. Shit is for the insects. Actually, right.