Anwar White explains how dating markets assign people numeric mate values based on looks, money, and personality. She uses Houston and Atlanta as examples of how location changes what you're worth, and shares her own rating: gay six, straight seven.
Someone asked, Jessica's asked, why is Houston worse than Atlanta? Houston is worse than Atlanta because.
A lot of Houston guys are punching above their weight class. A lot of the Houston guys actually moved to Houston from Atlanta because they couldn't cut it. They were a 7 in Atlanta, and they were getting no play. And then they came to Houston and they thought that they were a 10, and they're acting like a 10, and they're not a 10.
So when you have sevens acting like they're tens.
And treating women as such, you're going to have a disconnect.
It's not cute.
Why are y' all oofing and buying? I'm just trying to share the. I'm just trying to share the tea.
I was in Houston in November.
Someone said it's a seven bad. A seven is not bad. But if you're a seven and you think you're a ten, you're a five, and you think you're an eight.
There'S a disconnect there.
And if you're an eight, if you're a five and you think you're an eight thousand, you go in for eight girls and you're a five.
You going for ten girls, and you are a seven. That doesn't work.
Sorry about it.
Okay.
And I'm sorry. I know that some people really don't like it when we talk about numbers, but I need us to understand something, ladies. This is an economy, and we all have mate values.
That are given to us by the market. Whether it's physical, intellectual, financial, emotional. We have a mate value.
Some of us might not like to hear that, but it is a hundred percent true.
Girl. I had to come to terms with it myself. I was, you know, girl, I used to think, oh, my God, I'm an eight.
And then I realized, actually I was a gay six. A straight seven.
Yeah.
Had to keep it real with myself.
I had to keep it real with myself.
Yeah.
People are like, how do you understand your number.
Sue? Marisa, you're a straight 10, girl. There's nothing straight about me.
Girl. There no straight nothing, girl. No straight nothing.
Bit my Heath bar said gay six. Straight seven is crazy, child. Girl.
I. You have to. You don't understand. You don't understand gay world. Do you understand that most of those men are models? They stay in the gym.
Girl. They. They have more work done than y' all have work done. If you go into any gay magazine, the last third of the pages are plastic surgery pages, advertisements.
Y' all don't understand that market.
You know?
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
