A short YouTube monologue (by Anwar White) arguing that labeling coffee dates as "low effort" is actually shorthand for judging a partner's financial status. The speaker rebuts the "effort" framing, linking coffee-date stigma to broader patterns in dating and economics—noting that many Black women date poorer Black men and asserting that single Black women earn more than single Black men.
Sierra said, because someone asked about why are women so anti Coffee Day? And Sierra says it's low effort and it's cheap. It's not low effort. The same effort that I would do to drive to a coffee shop is the same effort I would do to drive to a restaurant.
It's not about effort. When people say effort, they're actually meaning money.
Please understand this. And for many of us, y' all have been trying to evaluate whether a man has money based on where they take you to. Because many of you, and if you're a black woman, this is 100% true, have been dating a lot of poor black men, because black men are, in general, poor. Poor single black women make more than single black men. It's the only racial group where this happens.
So for black women, it is a way to evaluate is this guy in poverty or not. The tricky thing is, is that wealthy men will do this because they're not going to invest in anything that isn't going to be worth it. So it's interesting. You actually want to put more weight on the second date and what happens there and how he shows up for you than on the first date, which is a coffee date. But, girl, do you. What I know is that the guys that are taking you to these fancy schmancy places are taking five women there in the next two weeks and that you're not special, even though you might think that you are.
