Anwar White, a dating coach with 15 years' experience, walks through how to handle a workplace crush. Wait to see if they ask to meet outside work, steer conversations toward personal topics to read their interest, and absolutely avoid married or separated colleagues. About 10-15% of relationships start at work.
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February 20, 2025.
Around 10–15%.
15 years.
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Someone, he said, I have a crush at work. What should I do? Love you. Love you too. Also do nothing. If he is really into it, he is going to, he's going to ask you out to lunch.
And when he does that, make sure that you're having lunch off of, out of the building, out of campus and start talking about non professional things. And if he continues to engage in the more personal conversations around family, around, you know, hobbies outside of work, then I will tell you that he's probably into you as well. Yeah, yeah. Here's the thing. I don't necessar, I'm not a huge fan of like work romances because often times women will be unfairly punished or their reputation will suffer if it doesn't work out. But I would not, I would be lying to say that it doesn't happen. Like around 10 to 15% of relationships start from work. So I want to make sure that you're navigating it in a way and you know what the hell you're doing when you're, when you have a situation like that. Yeah. Whatever you do though, don't.
Don'T fall in love with your work husband.
One, because he's probably married and two, it never works out. I wish it did, it would be perfect. But it never works out. You hear me?
Who has a crush on their work husband? Put it in the chat right now.
Put it in the chat right now.
And if you're black and your work husband is black, step away. Step away right now.
Someone said I work from home. Good girl. You are your work husband.
Okay, Someone said definitely married and black. That's right, honey. Why do I say this? Okay, girl, let me get into it.
One, because married men know how to court you. So you will, if it leans in like the thing is.
You will feel like it's real and it's not. That man is married.
And married men court the best.
And if you actually hook up with him.
The, the sex is going to feel much more connected than just some wham bam, you will fall in love with that married man if you actually have sex with him. And let me know there, you know, we don't judge in here. We don't judge.
If you've experienced that.
Let us know.
Mary D is dangerous D for a variety of different reasons. Someone said I'm judging. If you're judging, you need to get out of here. Because we don't judge here. We're going to say, we listen. We don't judge. We're going to say a lot of messy stuff here. So if you're a judge or girl, I'm going to kick you out.
Someone said he's getting a divorce. If he's getting a divorce, that's fine. But it still means that he's married.
What if separated? I have been a dating coach for 15 years, and anytime one of my clients has gotten with a guy that is separated, it has never worked.
Separated is still married.
Yeah.
Yeah. Okay.
Don't do it. I know. It's. It's. It like feeds into your fairy tale fantasy because he will court you as if you are in a Disney movie or in a Hallmark movie. Don't do it. Okay?
He is Gaston. He is Jafar. You hear me? He is. He's the Beast. He's not the white boy under the Beast. He's the Beast.
