Anwar White advises a 34-year-old with no dating experience to start with Bumble, post 4-6 photos, and wait a week to see matches. He warns that church-taught norms may not work in modern dating and says you need to actively engage to get comfortable.
Joy Love said advise. 34 year old, 0 dating experience, grew up in the church. Don't know where to start. Well, here's where I want you to start, girl. I want you to.
I just, I just want you to create an online profile. You're 34, I would say probably bumble.
Let's start there. Just one. You don't have to do multiple ones like my clients do. Just do one. And then all I want you to do, put, you know, four to six pictures on there.
Don't put a lot of time into your profile. Really minimal. And just wait a week. Why? Because you're gonna need to know that people are checking for you.
I think that you don't understand that people are truly checking for you. So that is like the first step. After that, the second step is I want you to start engaging with these guys because you're gonna need to learn how to just get your dating legs under you right now. You got no legs, girl. Yeah.
The other thing that I am going to offer to you, whether you want to take it or not, is that some of the things that you learned in the church you're going to have to potentially step away from if you want to be successful in dating now.
Yeah. And am I shitting on the church? No, girl, I grew up in the church. But what I am saying is that oftentimes church ladies.
Have a difficult time because they have been taught to be the nice girl, which means and to defer to men. You have to understand you lead relationships and like, you have to set boundaries. And boundaries doesn't seem nice to people that have been taught not to have boundaries and to go with the flow. Yeah, well, you can't go with the flow in dating, but when you were in the church, you had to go with the flow. Yeah. And accept what has been told to you, oftentimes from men. So when you're in relationships, what happens is that it feels very familiar and comfortable for you to have men tell you what to do. So I'm just offering that there might be things that you might have to step away from to become the woman that's ready for the best relationship of her life. Yeah.
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