Anwar White answers an audience question about where to find “providers” and advises listeners to look for solutions-oriented men rather than the loud, charismatic party types. He emphasizes that providing includes non-financial support (organizing, helping, paying for others) and recommends engaging quieter men who show coordinating behavior in social settings.
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Evelyn said, where are all the providers? Anwar.
You have to, when, when you are looking for a provider, you have to understand that providing is not just financial. This is about providing, is about providing solutions. So you have to look for a man that is going to provide solutions. So those happen in a variety of different careers, right?
You know.
You want to make sure that.
Guys that, because they're not. You're asking a question like, oh, they're all in one room or they're all in one place. They're not. This is a mentality, right? And so for example, let's say you're at a lounge or a bar and you're with your homegirls and you see a set of guys. There's. Right.
Most of the time the girls will bring a lot of attention to the guys that, the guys that are most charismatic, the guys that are louder, the guys that are being the fun guy. That generally is not the guy that is the solutions oriented man. That's, that's the party. That's the party animal. That's the promoter.
The solutions guy. He's probably having a one off conversation with someone because he's probably either helping him or he's probably the one that has organized the entire event and probably is going to pay for everybody.
Or he's the one who's saying, okay, next stop we're going here. That's the guy that you want to engage with. He generally is not going to be the loudest person.
But most of you all often engage with the loudest person. When you're chatting with a guy. Hone in on the guy that's not talking a lot.
Engage him and see what happens.
And no shade girl. But the quiet ones are the ones that got the tripod.
