Short YouTube monologue (creator: Anwar White) giving dating advice aimed at Black women who may date white men for the first time. Key points: broaden your dating pool, prefer partners who advocate for and protect you, and avoid men who fetishize racialized features (compliments focused on hair are likelier to be genuine).
Lydia said, dating a white guy for the first time. Tips. I'm black and African. Well, first of all.
I'm happy that you've widened your net. And if you are a black woman in this chat and you haven't dated a white guy, don't come back into this chat until you have a white guy on your roster. You hear me? I want your roster looking like an ad from H& M, a little bit of everybody, even an Asian man. Honey, no shade. Okay. You said, what are the tips? The tips are that I want you to make sure that.
When you're out with him that he advocates for you and he protects you. He protects you. You want to.
See, with time, if he is.
Someone that is actually focused on you.
The totality of you as a woman, or if it's a fetish thing. A lot of these. Some of these white guys, not a lot of them, some of them will fetishize you. So if he's talking about your black skin or your bigger lips or your bigger nose or what have you, then, girl.
He don't want you. He wants to skin you.
Trust me, as someone who's lived in a lot of places like Germany and Italy, where the fetishization level is high, that's what they do. The only difference, if he compliments your hair, he's the real deal. But if he's complimenting other things.
